"I Had An Affair, And It Completely Saved My Marriage"
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There really isn’t much talk about womens’ ‘romance’ (porn) novels leading to unhealthy expectations about relationships and men like there is with typical male porn consumption.
Typical male porn is considered much more taboo, and depicts (mostly) real women in the videos. However, not only is typical female novel-porn much less taboo and easily accessible (women can consume their porn in a Barnes & Noble, ffs), it is fantasy from start to finish. The women that write those novels depict the literal ideal perfect man. Women read these novels and are consistently presented this fantastical, perfect man. It leads these women to having unhealthy expectations and standards of men in actual reality. I would argue much more so than men and their typical porn.
Everything feminists accuse men's entertainment of being (not just porn, all entertainment period) applies more fully to female entertainment. Female entertainment is what tends to encourage women to set unrealistic expectations for men. Female entertainment tends to treat male characters as prizes to be won (or more often than not, manipulated and disposed of). Female entertainment romanticizes terrible behaviors like stalking, abuse, adultery, and rape. And it's female entertainment that, well, depicts men in ways that don't reflect actual male behavior and shows the writer doesn't understand them at all (aka "Women writing men."). And as you say, female porn is easily accessible for people of all ages, unlike male porn, which is always hidden behind closed doors.