Just because you say "hence" doesn't mean there's an actual connection between what comes before your "hence" and what comes after.

You've made exactly 0% headway into explaining in any way, how your "toxic" behaviors can, or should, be tied to intrinsically male or female behavior. In fact, when given the opportunity to even describe typically male or female behavior, you dropped the ball, really, really, badly. You gave what you thought were iron-clad examples, and they have been dismantled by several people.

That's "back to the drawing board" time. Don't get mad, don't get petulant. Instead, examine your assumptions. Where did you learn what you thought you knew about spousal abuse and such?