Gays are a fraction of the population, and the "normal respectable" ones are likely a fraction of that. How are they supposed to just magically find each other? Every "gay meet" event is crawling with the worst types, as is every dating vector.

By sheer math, they will always be exposed constantly to the degenerate side and most will have to compromise on it simply to not be alone. Heck that's such a common thing Key and Peele were mocking it a decade ago.