I think this is a good point. What you described is what I actually notice quite reliably with many women [not all]. Often it is just something that gives them the illusion of safety that works, but actual safe things is not quite as important sometimes.

Just making this up but this has happened many times with gun owners I know for sure: Guy goes out with girl someplace, shopping, camping, whatever.... he is an incredibly responsible gun owner, super safe, and she may even know it, but in her mind having a gun is "unsafe" when in reality they are much safer having one.

Gosh it actually reminds me of one of the most stupid lines in modern "netflix-style-media-history" I heard. I was watching the new "Lost In Space" remake thing. The wife just outright sucks in that show.

The dad, who is like literally military trained super good soldier guy, somehow gets a gun. She is all "YOU KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT GUNS IN THIS HOUSEHOLD!" scolding him to get rid of it. Tey are literally LOST IN SPACE WITH SPACE ALIENS AND MONSTERS TRYING TO KILL THEIR CHILDREN EVERY 5 MINUTES. But no, gun scary to her so instead of actual safety you better get rid of that gun military trained combat veteran husband of mine!!!