Unfortunately, looking at the single women that me an my wife know, things are not looking good for you.
Is like they used Sex in the City as a way of life, now single and depressed and not one of them seems to wonder if the problem is them.
Hopefully single women in their 30s are better where you are.
Completely unrelated, I've been meaning to ask you something. I know you said you go to church and even get involved with youth. I was not very religious but I've started going to church, it helped me get out of a black pilled period. I wanted to ask you if you have any resources for a father to teach to kids. If not, it is fine, I've picked this children bible and started reading that but any additional material is good, I'm interested in what topics should I discuss with a 7 year old.
I'm not religious, but I think I'm coming at it from the same angle as you. It feels like the left has race-sex-identity-whatever as their religion, and that to compete with that YOU need something else.
What kind of church did you find? I visited 2-3 but I just didn't like them.
Ortodox Christian, my family technically is Ortodox but not really practicing.
Is very much ritualistic and a bit detached, it does not have that closeness I've seen in other denominations.
One reason I need help is that there is not enough teaching and to much focused on rituals.
What does a non-Christian look for in a church experience? I'm curious.
I've recently been trying several churches but still haven't found one to convince me to attend consistently. I am a devout Christian though, so my reasons are almost certainly different than yours.
Hah, good question! So my elevator speech is that my grandfather was a (liberal protestant) minister and then divinity school professor. My parents were not regular churchgoers and I did not grow up going consistently to church, though I did Sunday school sometimes. As an adult, I have not attended any church other than at Christmas. I admire Christianity and Christian history, and I consider myself a cultural Christian, but since I'm a nonexistent churchgoer and a poor believer, I don't feel comfortable saying I'm Christian (it feels like it cheapens the word, if you know what I mean?).
What am I looking for? I'm not entirely sure. Maybe that is the problem. Community would definitely be part of it. But, more than that. One time, as a kid, we were visiting my relatives and attended an old, traditional church with them. It was a small congregation, and the minister gave an amazing sermon. I really enjoyed that.
All of the local churches I have tried out as an adult have just not felt comfortable to me. I read someone once say that many mainstream Protestant churches kind of talk about Jesus as if he were a dreamboat perfect boyfriend. I know tons of people who attend one of the local megachurches with multiple campuses. They have rock music, video streaming, fancy light setups, etc. That just doesn't feel right to me either. (Southern Baptist, but they don't make a big deal out of that--it's almost hidden that that's what they are.)
You're looking for Greek/roman philosophy. They already did this, packaged lessons into fantastical stories that would be well remembered. Just tell your kid vetted stories while you spend time together doing a physical activity.
Hmmm, I'm almost the same age, and I have seen several women I've known for years announce they are "bisexual" or talk about how they're bisexual in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. I haven't particularly heard "queer" in our demographic, that seems a younger thing.
My take on it is that it's the new midlife crisis; they are basic bitches who want to feel special.
I'm right there behind you at 39 years old and single.
I regret not looking for a partner when I was in my 20s. For various reasons (my own fault), I didn't really understand or appreciate how fulfilling it is to have an deep relationship with another human being or how rewarding it can be to have a wife and kids of your own. I've been living a selfish, self-centered life but now that I'm financially and professional successful, I'm beginning to realize what I'm missing.
In order to start a family at this age, practically speaking I'd need to find a partner in their late 20's or early 30's at their oldest, meaning a ~10-15 year age gap. Additionally, I would want to find a traditional Christian woman, most of who usually marry young (which is good advice for young women).
It's just so much more complicated to try to start a family at this age. My advice for young people, particularly young Christians, is to find someone you love and marry young. There are many reasons for this beyond the reasons I've listed above.
I just haven't had much luck, but I keep myself in good shape and my older brother is an inspiration. He had his first son at age 45 and is now 53. He keeps himself in great shape and looks like he is in his early 30s. But you are right. A lot of those women marry young.
I’m single at 41 but generally speaking women around my age are over this need to be trendy and I generally look for more traditional Christian women.
Unfortunately, looking at the single women that me an my wife know, things are not looking good for you. Is like they used Sex in the City as a way of life, now single and depressed and not one of them seems to wonder if the problem is them. Hopefully single women in their 30s are better where you are.
Completely unrelated, I've been meaning to ask you something. I know you said you go to church and even get involved with youth. I was not very religious but I've started going to church, it helped me get out of a black pilled period. I wanted to ask you if you have any resources for a father to teach to kids. If not, it is fine, I've picked this children bible and started reading that but any additional material is good, I'm interested in what topics should I discuss with a 7 year old.
Feel free to message me.
Let me check and get back to you. I’d be glad to help! And yea trying to meet the right woman is rough right now but Im sure I’ll find her eventually
I'm not religious, but I think I'm coming at it from the same angle as you. It feels like the left has race-sex-identity-whatever as their religion, and that to compete with that YOU need something else.
What kind of church did you find? I visited 2-3 but I just didn't like them.
Ortodox Christian, my family technically is Ortodox but not really practicing. Is very much ritualistic and a bit detached, it does not have that closeness I've seen in other denominations. One reason I need help is that there is not enough teaching and to much focused on rituals.
What does a non-Christian look for in a church experience? I'm curious.
I've recently been trying several churches but still haven't found one to convince me to attend consistently. I am a devout Christian though, so my reasons are almost certainly different than yours.
Hah, good question! So my elevator speech is that my grandfather was a (liberal protestant) minister and then divinity school professor. My parents were not regular churchgoers and I did not grow up going consistently to church, though I did Sunday school sometimes. As an adult, I have not attended any church other than at Christmas. I admire Christianity and Christian history, and I consider myself a cultural Christian, but since I'm a nonexistent churchgoer and a poor believer, I don't feel comfortable saying I'm Christian (it feels like it cheapens the word, if you know what I mean?).
What am I looking for? I'm not entirely sure. Maybe that is the problem. Community would definitely be part of it. But, more than that. One time, as a kid, we were visiting my relatives and attended an old, traditional church with them. It was a small congregation, and the minister gave an amazing sermon. I really enjoyed that.
All of the local churches I have tried out as an adult have just not felt comfortable to me. I read someone once say that many mainstream Protestant churches kind of talk about Jesus as if he were a dreamboat perfect boyfriend. I know tons of people who attend one of the local megachurches with multiple campuses. They have rock music, video streaming, fancy light setups, etc. That just doesn't feel right to me either. (Southern Baptist, but they don't make a big deal out of that--it's almost hidden that that's what they are.)
So yeah, I don't know.
You're looking for Greek/roman philosophy. They already did this, packaged lessons into fantastical stories that would be well remembered. Just tell your kid vetted stories while you spend time together doing a physical activity.
I'll check it out. Thank you
Be careful with that. Plenty of women will pretend to be traditional Christians to rope you in then go back to being thots once you're trapped.
Hmmm, I'm almost the same age, and I have seen several women I've known for years announce they are "bisexual" or talk about how they're bisexual in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. I haven't particularly heard "queer" in our demographic, that seems a younger thing.
My take on it is that it's the new midlife crisis; they are basic bitches who want to feel special.
I'm right there behind you at 39 years old and single.
I regret not looking for a partner when I was in my 20s. For various reasons (my own fault), I didn't really understand or appreciate how fulfilling it is to have an deep relationship with another human being or how rewarding it can be to have a wife and kids of your own. I've been living a selfish, self-centered life but now that I'm financially and professional successful, I'm beginning to realize what I'm missing.
In order to start a family at this age, practically speaking I'd need to find a partner in their late 20's or early 30's at their oldest, meaning a ~10-15 year age gap. Additionally, I would want to find a traditional Christian woman, most of who usually marry young (which is good advice for young women).
It's just so much more complicated to try to start a family at this age. My advice for young people, particularly young Christians, is to find someone you love and marry young. There are many reasons for this beyond the reasons I've listed above.
I just haven't had much luck, but I keep myself in good shape and my older brother is an inspiration. He had his first son at age 45 and is now 53. He keeps himself in great shape and looks like he is in his early 30s. But you are right. A lot of those women marry young.
That only works if you're willing to stay in the country you found her. If you let feminism destroy them they're no better than Western thots.