Absolutely. A circle of "friends" reinforcing the behaviour is one of the most important elements.
It's fairly common for children to get mixed up in their sexuality especially as they go through puberty. It can be very easy to mix up who you want to be with sexually and who you want to become. However most people grow out of this if left alone as they get older.
When children don't have good relationships at home, or are otherwise very emotionally distressed they may become more attracted to a group of people who keep giving them compliments and positive reinforcement. It can act a lot like a cult, with trying to convince them that they should not trust or talk to their parents or family members about it. Even worse, giving them a place to stay and run away to, or drugs to take without their knowledge.
I have to wonder if I could have gotten sucked in if I had been in this generation. I always had both male and female interests, but a quick look at my genitals told me my gender and there was no confusion. I have been accused of acting like a man a number of times over the years, has never bothered me. I am ornery enough that I was never part of any kind of group think so I might have escaped it.
See, this was how I was raised. Men are men and women are women, but it is not weird for interests or mannerisms to be masculine or feminine. I was raised to be comfortable with the abnormal, but this new generation is being taught to warp reality until the abnormal becomes normal, and that abnormality itself is bad.
Some of us also had no idea. My daughter did not show signs of what had festered until she was in her 20's and out on her own, but was an early adopter back in her teens and hid it. I homeschooled, she was not neglected. There is a history of mental illness in my family and she was vulnerable. She doesn't talk to us now. To be honest is has been a relief once I got over the grief of losing her. The constant anger was just too much. She has cut everyone sane out of her life.
There is a history of mental illness in my family and she was vulnerable. She doesn't talk to us now. To be honest is has been a relief once I got over the grief of losing her.
thats fucking rough, sorry for your loss. I hope one day she realises what shes done
Thanks, the first year was the worst, but after that I gradually just let go. It is my job to love my kids, but not to control them or let them ruin my life. My oldest is totally solid so I have one I can count on. He was unique from day 1. My youngest and his wife are stoners now and we don't see them much because we would not let them use in our house. I am mostly just done with their generation with a few exceptions. I was a tougher parent, but it was lose-lose because they outside world told them not being a pushover is the same as abusive. I am just living my best life.
I had an interesting situation last night, I am a service missionary in a Spanish Speaking congregation. One of the young women said a business was racist. I asked her how she knew and she said they had Trump signs up, I told her I voted for Trump and I could see her head almost explode. One of the other YW spoke up that her uncle voted for Trump. Turns out this YW is not here legally and was just about to get her papers when Trump was elected. She is a wonderful person, but has been going to the dark side politically. I wonder when she will figure out that her parents broke the law. In their situation I would have likely done the same. There are almost zero consequences for it so why not? I can always tell which people, and they are the majority, immigrated legally.
Absolutely. A circle of "friends" reinforcing the behaviour is one of the most important elements.
It's fairly common for children to get mixed up in their sexuality especially as they go through puberty. It can be very easy to mix up who you want to be with sexually and who you want to become. However most people grow out of this if left alone as they get older.
When children don't have good relationships at home, or are otherwise very emotionally distressed they may become more attracted to a group of people who keep giving them compliments and positive reinforcement. It can act a lot like a cult, with trying to convince them that they should not trust or talk to their parents or family members about it. Even worse, giving them a place to stay and run away to, or drugs to take without their knowledge.
I have to wonder if I could have gotten sucked in if I had been in this generation. I always had both male and female interests, but a quick look at my genitals told me my gender and there was no confusion. I have been accused of acting like a man a number of times over the years, has never bothered me. I am ornery enough that I was never part of any kind of group think so I might have escaped it.
See, this was how I was raised. Men are men and women are women, but it is not weird for interests or mannerisms to be masculine or feminine. I was raised to be comfortable with the abnormal, but this new generation is being taught to warp reality until the abnormal becomes normal, and that abnormality itself is bad.
Some of us also had no idea. My daughter did not show signs of what had festered until she was in her 20's and out on her own, but was an early adopter back in her teens and hid it. I homeschooled, she was not neglected. There is a history of mental illness in my family and she was vulnerable. She doesn't talk to us now. To be honest is has been a relief once I got over the grief of losing her. The constant anger was just too much. She has cut everyone sane out of her life.
thats fucking rough, sorry for your loss. I hope one day she realises what shes done
Thanks, the first year was the worst, but after that I gradually just let go. It is my job to love my kids, but not to control them or let them ruin my life. My oldest is totally solid so I have one I can count on. He was unique from day 1. My youngest and his wife are stoners now and we don't see them much because we would not let them use in our house. I am mostly just done with their generation with a few exceptions. I was a tougher parent, but it was lose-lose because they outside world told them not being a pushover is the same as abusive. I am just living my best life.
I had an interesting situation last night, I am a service missionary in a Spanish Speaking congregation. One of the young women said a business was racist. I asked her how she knew and she said they had Trump signs up, I told her I voted for Trump and I could see her head almost explode. One of the other YW spoke up that her uncle voted for Trump. Turns out this YW is not here legally and was just about to get her papers when Trump was elected. She is a wonderful person, but has been going to the dark side politically. I wonder when she will figure out that her parents broke the law. In their situation I would have likely done the same. There are almost zero consequences for it so why not? I can always tell which people, and they are the majority, immigrated legally.
Prying them away is harder than ever in the era of internet communication.