Well there's secular marriage and religious marriage. You want to be secular, you get what you deserve. It's sad to see people who are religious get worked over, hard to avoid it to as many people are, ahem "religious", not religious in the true sense. Marriage, as it was, is good for men and women (seriously, healthy marriages ARE good for women's health too, not just men's, despite people throwing around that single women are healthier). It's also required in Christianity unless you want to be celibate. So marriage isn't a racket and shouldn't be thought of as such. it has major problems, especially for men and children. But it needs to be fixed, not eliminated.