did not make her presence known to me. However, she confided in her mother. My wife told me our daughter saw us and now thinks I am having an affair. I asked my wife if she set the record straight about our open relationship, and the fact that she was actually with her lover at the same time I was with mine. She said that she doesn’t feel comfortable with our children knowing we have an open marriage.
Ha, I figured this is what happened. One party was caught, the other party told, but too embarrassed to correct the assumption. And of course she doesn't want your children knowing, they'll think she's a slut and the two of you don't love each other anymore (you don't and she is).
They have a 15, 17, and 19 year old. Surprisingly, the advice columnist agrees that they should come clean, even if the wife doesn't want to, but pretty much completely excuses the wife setting her husband up to look like a cheater just to protect her reputation.
And I think that’s probably the best way to consider this question, and to frame the conversation with your wife: not focusing on the goal of damage control, or trying to control how your children see either of you, but recognizing that it is obviously better for your 19-year-old to know the facts than to hold a mistaken impression that is undoubtedly causing her pain.
Kind of makes a big assumption that both her parents being essentially cheaters will make her feel better than just one parent, though.
Probably will just make her feel worse but in a different way. But at least it is the truth. When one spouse is cheating behind the other's back in can cause serious trust and betrayal issues in the kids. At least knowing it was mutual is something. Thought then they wonder if any spouse they get will end up wanting the same. So yeah, bad, but uh, at least not living a lie? Maybe wake up and stop being degenerates?
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Ha, I figured this is what happened. One party was caught, the other party told, but too embarrassed to correct the assumption. And of course she doesn't want your children knowing, they'll think she's a slut and the two of you don't love each other anymore (you don't and she is).
They have a 15, 17, and 19 year old. Surprisingly, the advice columnist agrees that they should come clean, even if the wife doesn't want to, but pretty much completely excuses the wife setting her husband up to look like a cheater just to protect her reputation.
Kind of makes a big assumption that both her parents being essentially cheaters will make her feel better than just one parent, though.
Probably will just make her feel worse but in a different way. But at least it is the truth. When one spouse is cheating behind the other's back in can cause serious trust and betrayal issues in the kids. At least knowing it was mutual is something. Thought then they wonder if any spouse they get will end up wanting the same. So yeah, bad, but uh, at least not living a lie? Maybe wake up and stop being degenerates?