That's essentially what I was trying to convey by differentiating kindness and niceness. Kindness being what achieves the best outcome even if it's not necessarily nice to the individual while niceness is performative and not necessarily in someone's best interest.
Kindness is a beautiful thing and one of the highest virtues you can have. Problem is it's conflated with niceness. Christ was always kind but wasn't always nice.
I absolutely look back in regret. Was very into the new atheism energy that Dawkins and Hitchens had. Seeing globohomo and noticing how Christ taught against everything that it stands for helped point me to him.
That's essentially what I was trying to convey by differentiating kindness and niceness. Kindness being what achieves the best outcome even if it's not necessarily nice to the individual while niceness is performative and not necessarily in someone's best interest.