Do as you say. Go to same single man that I got on with for help problem solving like once a week or so. After about two months of doing this I tell him I always go to him cause I'm interested in him. He calls me desperate lol I ask for feedback and apparently asking for advice for DIY or tech shit means I'm clingy and/or dumb.
There is no 'one way' to do things because different people respond to different shit. Some men respond to the woman's strat of messing with his emotions, it works and I've seen it in action. It's pathetic but it's effective if you're looking for a soyboy.
A lot of men don't like 'clear unambiguous forward' women because it makes them come across as desperate, clingy, slutty, or otherwise untrustworthy. Outside my own experience, I've seen that being the case with other women. Just asking a guy out can be taken as a slutty gesture (how many other men has she asked if she's this forward?).
You're either going to meet someone who likes that type of person or one who doesn't. "Too much honesty" means telling him that you're dating with marriage in mind and that you eventually want a family. Men will run for the hills and never look back.
Are they wrong though? That post is pretty on the mark from my experience. Any alternative to reddit becomes full of edgelords and LARPers who push everyone away and the rapidly declining userbase becomes a circlejerk of tards.
Look at consoomproduct/win, it's just 'The Jews' and 'I hate women'. This place is largely the same as well. There were more rational people on KiA2 but not so much now. It's easy to tell it's LARPers because the only threads are edgelord posts and memes. Any post about not consooming is dead. Any post about lifting, gardening, or doing literally anything productive, is dead. The only threads like that that get replies are reading threads, and it's always the same people trying to tell each other that they're reading shit like Ayn Rand. Which again, it's easy to tell they're not because they bring up the same books every time, no one finishes a book, and they don't actually talk about what they like/dislike. They just say they're reading it and then that thread dies too. No one wants to admit they're reading shit like Tom Clancy or Clive Cussler, if they're reading anything at all.
It's the same when anything is created that promotes free speech. It's immediately filled with child porn. Then argument breaks out about how it doesn't count because they're just cartoons. Regardless of your stance, it is considered child porn depending on what country you're in. These people are expecting the site owners/admin to facilitate illegal activity and risk jail time because they can't just jack off to normal porn.
Same when they cried about Parler giving information to the FBI. Like it was a surprise. No shit they give information to the FBI, illegal activity is still illegal. Parler isn't offering to be your host of terrorism and shit. "Don't worry bros, I'll go to prison on your behalf, you go shoot up a government building... IN MINECRAFT LOL". And I'm talking actual terrorism, not shit like a woman recieving jail time for saying the Jews need to get over the Holocaust or people protesting a clearly rigged election.
I digress, but these sites end up becoming the same as Reddit. The extreme userbase drives normal people and actual discussion away. If people wanted actual discussion the site wouldn't even have an upvote/downvote system that allows people to 'disagree' without adding anything. Or discourages discussion because people are scared of being downvoted. "I'm not scared lol" Psychologically you're influenced by the voting system, once a few votes either way have passed, the rest will follow. This is how the front page of reddit is controlled.
I hate SJWs as much as the next guy, but these sites have a problem, and that problem is that the userbase makes them unsuable for everyday people. And as much as you say you don't want normies, normies are what keeps social media going. You need them. The only difference was that these sites were supposed to have mods weren't SJW control freaks. But the userbase just shits all over it by being spergs incapable of forming one intelligent thought between them. And said spergs either attack or ignore anyone that isn't also a sperg.
But then modern 4chan is the same. Any attempt at discussion is met with seethe, tranny, dilate, shill, filtered, or people just start posting porn and hijack the thread. It's boring, it's tiring to see over and over, and these sites will die because the people who use it can't get their shit together. These people hate self improvement as much as SJWs and they are too focused on being victims, the same as SJWs.
What's worse is that from what I've seen of age discussion, it's not even kids. It's people in their late 20s-mid 30s who just never grew up.