I am trying to think of the youngest boy I have ever had because, of course, you can't tell it here.

Fucking hell. We're talking single digits, aren't we? It's got to be something appalling if he doesn't even dare speak it in Sri Lanka

I think most of the damage comes from the fuss made by hysterical parents afterwards.

He is definitely right about this to some extent, but the fact that he seems to have made major life decisions that put him in a better position to fuck young boys tells me he was extremely predatory.