To the extent that men avoid dating "powerful" women: we are actually weighing the (very high) probability that your innate female hypergamy will trigger disloyalty.

That's the biggest reason but it's not the only one. We also know (or learn the hard way from experience) that not satisfying her hypergamy means a shittier relationship dynamic. The less desirable you are the more beta shit you'll have to do and it doesn't take much of that for the relationship to become a net negative in your life. Nothing is free in the sexual marketplace but some ways of paying suck a lot less than others.