I was reading "Discours de la Servitude Volontaire" (Discourse on voluntary servitude), a very old book written by a 18-19 year old "Étienne de la Boétie" who discusses basically why people obey and serve.
My interrogations began when I went for a dental cleaning. The hygienist spent a whole hour with me. The dentist saw me at most I'd say a minute.
The hygienist makes 60,000$ per year, of which the government will rob $20,000 "at source." This leaves her with $40,000 per year, or a bit over $3,300 net per month.
The dentists makes well over $500,000. Of course, it's considered business income, so it is taxed at 8% maximum (if it is taxed at all). He can of course pay himself a dividend, which is not-taxed for the first $60,000 (our lady's whole salary), and then at half the rate that lady's income. With a huge tax credit and really no deduction.
Still too high? Go for capital gains, deduce everything, and you will pay 10-15% taxes.
And I got to think: how exactly is that fair? First, how is it fair that the dentist makes so much more than her? Who would accept to work for 10% of the salary of their coworkers? Yes, dentist requires more skill, more studies, more education, and comes with risk. Yes you have to diagnose horrible stuff from time to time and if you mess up, consequences are bad. But is it really worth 10 times the salary of that hygienist?
With huge tax benefits? I'm a teacher and I net around the same amount as that hygienist. I also have university education, and I teach kids, which should be important (it's not but whatever).
Is what this dentist doing worth really that much more than me?
I don't understand. It must be pretty humiliating to look in a mirror and think "I am worth 10% of that person." And I'm not talking about a top-tier, elite programmer or engineer. And to make it worse - you have to give half your income as taxes anyway!
Why, why do people accept that? What's the point? You live like shit while the rich (and dentist is chump change in terms of rich people) enjoy life and laugh at you.
Is this really what life is about?
And by the way, it would be one thing if life was at least pleasant and government offered good services. Every single governmental service is junk. I work at a private school, and you can bet all rich people send their kids there. Why, if public school is so good, do they do that? Same for medicine, supposedly free - all rich people go to private clinic.
I tried to go the ER once. 18 hours of waiting, to get prescribed a tylenol. Gas is a real fortune, public transport shows up 50% of the time on a good day, roads are garbage, homeless are everywhere (masturbate in metro), food is so expensive a steak is a pipe dream for me, they took our guns away for no reason, now they ask for ID to go online the UK, they are about to censor the whole internet...
... and people just, like, passively accept that? "No problem sir, here's half my income so you guys can get another 30% raise (true story!). Do you need more?"
Why?
Like our hygienist - doesn't she feel humiliated doing 90% of the job and earning 10% of the salary - and then having a third (at best) stolen? Doesn't she feel like she's wasting her life, a subhuman, inferior, useless? At least as a teacher, I can pretend I do something that matters. It's a lie of course, but I can say "i help children grow up, I make a difference." And even there, no one at that school makes 10 times my salary, only the CEO earns 3-4 times at most (private school).
I don't get it. In "Discourse of voluntary servitude", La Boétie says it'S basically a) habit b) pleasure. That people get accustomed to be water carriers and slave from a young age. And that governments use pleasure to control people. But ultimately, he claims people are the most responsible for their situations. Like Orwell in 1984, when he says the pleb could always rebel and overthrow the regime, but never does.
I hate this world. Sigh.
I'd kill the bitch for trying to leave me. All I care about is reproduction and I'd be willing to die in prison if it means achieving that goal and getting revenge of the evil whore who ruined my life. Divorce is evil and sadistic, it's akin to murder.
Do some soul searching and find God.
Be a man worthy of Christ, and then you'll be a man worthy of Christ's goal for you. If that vocation is marriage, God will provide a spouse. By living a life of Christ seeking a spouse, you might just find one.
No woman worth having will only seek your money. Be a good man, and be a good provider, and you'll become attractive to the right women.
Divorce is evil, but evil upon evil or to stop evil isn't good or holy. Revenge is anti-Christ.
Material wealth is fleeting. Happy are those who are poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of God. Don't seek or envy materials - do not place them above the Lord God, for that is just having an idol.
Just the same worthless shit I've heard my whole fucking life. Absolutely useless an unactionable.
I've spent half my life trying to get a woman and I still haven't had so much as a first date or a first kiss, let alone sex. The average preteen has more experience in life than I do.
No, not unactionable. You aren't acting attractive. Not with this attitude.
If you are supposed to have a spouse, you will find one, but you will miss with this attitude. And perhaps you already have missed several attempts with this jated attitude. Want something actionable?
Find God. Love God. Sacrifice yourself for God. That's your primary vocation. Go to a conservative church and put your faith in God. Become friends with the priest and other men there.
You will find a joy when you place yourself in God. With that joy, review your conscience. Examine yourself, and determine if you are worthy to be a spouse. If there is any reason you aren't, fix whatever is wrong via discipline. Train yourself. No porn. No jacking off. Cut those out. Exercise and be healthy.
Focus on a good career to offer a basic foundation for a family. You don't need to be rich, but you need to make enough to be a breadwinner. Families are much happier long term if the wife doesn't need to work.
Be active in the church and nearby churches. Volunteer and sacrifice for others, especially in events where woman your age might as be attending. This is a much better place to find a spouse than a bar.
Consider some online dating, but I wouldn't advise this without a strong foundation.
10 years ago, I might've felt like you. Now I'm married with kids.
Personality is irrelevant, I can't get far enough for it to matter, I struggle to even find women and when I do they reject me instantly.
Worthless advice, I can't form friendships with men because all I want is sex with a woman and most things make me miserable by reminding me of what I don't have. I've had friends in the past and they always end up cutting me off because of my desperation for a woman.
Retarded cope, how am I meant to abstain from porn and masturbation without ANY sexual outlets to speak of and while constantly putting myself into positions that make me horny(such as mixed sex church services)? I AM worthy but these evil sluts refuse to give me a chance.
My job prospects are fucked, I'm on disability which I would lose if I were to start working, I have no hope of ever reaching the earning potential of an average woman and the only sort of jobs I'd be able to get if I'm lucky is doing back breaking labor for minimum wage.
Last time I worked was the only time I ever felt suicidal. Why live if life is nothing but constant suffering for a world that abuses me and denies me the ability to start a family? I am morally opposed to being a slave for such an evil world.
Again, fuck off I'm not doing things for others when they would do nothing for me except deny my claims of suffering and put the blame on me. The world has proved itself to be unworthy of my aid.
Besides that churches are horrible places to meet women, I get tortured by having to sit around staring at the back of their heads for two hours while the pastor rambles about shit that doesn't apply to me because so much of the preaching assumes that I have a social life of some sort.
Doesn't work, women don't want me.
Ten years ago I was in the same position I am now desperately trying to escape and being called a liar whenever I describe my experiences. I can't get any specific guidance it's all just the same bullshit.