Brother I'll tell you a secret, physically, most women are awful at sex. They generally have no clue what a man actually wants and even if they do very few can do a better job than you could do youself. It's just the psychological side that sets it apart, if you can get over that you're not even missing out on that much. Kids are the real treasure. But it seems to me you'd probably be happier if you just stopped believing the hype and relaxed into the sage lifestyle and found other goals.