I worked in Investment Banking and dated MDs, lawyers, accountants, bankers, engineers, psychiatrists, compsci girls, waitresses, hair dressers, social workers, nursers, HR Managers, etc... you name it.
I've been to parties where the average salary was probably $500k/yr. I've also been to parties where some people literally couldn't afford a drink because they had $0 to their name.
This guy is wrong, IMO, and is way oversimplifying the issues.
Class is related to genetics (nature) and this is closely related to how compatible you'll be with someone. It's not really about the "culture" so much as it's about genetics.
There's also a myriad of other factors that make "cross-class" dating difficult. A lot of upper-class people (esp men) think that by dating lower-class women they will be able to be the authority and dominant one in the relationship. They bring their attitude with them and the women aren't naive to the fact that this is likely why an upper class guy wants to date them in the first place. That'll never work. An Applebees waitress is going to consider herself your equal, welcome to modernity, but how many C-Level men want to have to deal with the Applebees waitress telling him he's wrong and she's right after every little argument they get into in a relationship. He'd rather date the psychiatrist woman who at least is right when she tells him he's wrong. Most men I knew who dated down struggled with this. They'd be making $300k/yr year, masters in some STEM field, killing it at life and the waitress who failed high school thinks she's just as smart as him and that he's wrong in whatever tiff they get into. A lot of guys can't handle this. A lot of women refuse to date men who are so obviously superior to them because women don't want to be the "lesser" in the relationship. They want to participate 50/50 in the relationship and if the guy is so much superior to her, she knows it's going to be difficult for her to contribute anything of value so she won't even bother getting into the relationship with the guy.
Now, arguably the last part is "culture" but I think this is more genetic compatibility. I'd wager most people date people around their IQ level and there's likely a bit of a correlation between class and IQ.
A lot of wisdom here, and yeah, I consider culture a strong (if imperfect) proxy for IQ, so whenever someone talks about culture in these contexts I just read it as that.
I worked in Investment Banking and dated MDs, lawyers, accountants, bankers, engineers, psychiatrists, compsci girls, waitresses, hair dressers, social workers, nursers, HR Managers, etc... you name it.
I've been to parties where the average salary was probably $500k/yr. I've also been to parties where some people literally couldn't afford a drink because they had $0 to their name.
This guy is wrong, IMO, and is way oversimplifying the issues.
Class is related to genetics (nature) and this is closely related to how compatible you'll be with someone. It's not really about the "culture" so much as it's about genetics.
There's also a myriad of other factors that make "cross-class" dating difficult. A lot of upper-class people (esp men) think that by dating lower-class women they will be able to be the authority and dominant one in the relationship. They bring their attitude with them and the women aren't naive to the fact that this is likely why an upper class guy wants to date them in the first place. That'll never work. An Applebees waitress is going to consider herself your equal, welcome to modernity, but how many C-Level men want to have to deal with the Applebees waitress telling him he's wrong and she's right after every little argument they get into in a relationship. He'd rather date the psychiatrist woman who at least is right when she tells him he's wrong. Most men I knew who dated down struggled with this. They'd be making $300k/yr year, masters in some STEM field, killing it at life and the waitress who failed high school thinks she's just as smart as him and that he's wrong in whatever tiff they get into. A lot of guys can't handle this. A lot of women refuse to date men who are so obviously superior to them because women don't want to be the "lesser" in the relationship. They want to participate 50/50 in the relationship and if the guy is so much superior to her, she knows it's going to be difficult for her to contribute anything of value so she won't even bother getting into the relationship with the guy.
Now, arguably the last part is "culture" but I think this is more genetic compatibility. I'd wager most people date people around their IQ level and there's likely a bit of a correlation between class and IQ.
A lot of wisdom here, and yeah, I consider culture a strong (if imperfect) proxy for IQ, so whenever someone talks about culture in these contexts I just read it as that.