I am not sure that it would be wrong of me to levy a moral judgement on the men who avoid marriage for all the (very real) reasons you've listed any more than it would be wrong of me to avoid levying a moral judgement on the women who have constructed this hellscape. In fact, I lament both--that women have been granted so much leeway and have selfishly demolished the foundation upon which their own well-being rests and was constructed and that men make the seeming rational decision to avoid the whole affair.