And the second is WAY more common and being honest, natural.

Men's FEW benefits is that they can become more attractive as they are older by both material acquisition and staying in shape as both of those are very attractive to younger women in their 20s than men their same age.

On the flipside, women HAVE an expiration date (unless Asian, I've mistaken 40 year olds for 20, wtf is in their genes?!?) so if they haven't found a partner by a certain date, they're fucked so this 'dating younger' that old women try to pass off as 'natural' comes off as desperate.