Read a tweet today about why Gen Z men are not "manning up" and cold approaching women. It's obviously the fear of getting your life ruined, not the fear of rejection.
This is established fact for virtually anyone who's ever thought about the subject (besides NPCs).
But my thought is even if you somehow took away the risk of ruining your life, there are a lot of problems with expecting men to find relationships by walking into the buzzsaw of cold approaches over and over. First of all, it kind of hurts to get turned down based on your physical appearance, and the appearance of 80% of men is inadequate on its own. You can make up for that with banter and flirting. But is it realistic to expect every man, or even most men, to develop the level of game needed to pick up girls off the street?
Second, most attractive women you see on the street already have a boyfriend. Not a meme boyfriend, an actual dude. Now it is true that if you're Timothee Chalamet you can probably turn half of those women into cheating hoes, but why would you want to given that you're going for a serious relationship? In the end it's just very awkward for both parties to go through the script again and again. "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." [forced smile] "Oh, my bad sorry"
In the past women were somewhat more likely to take cold approaches as a compliment. Disclaimer: somewhat more likely. Today the infinite choice of online dating has more than filled women's thirst to be admired, so getting approached in public mostly makes them annoyed for the same reason that most people prefer to be emailed rather than called.
There is a way for guys who aren't male models to be attractive to women: get to know them in a mutual community so their appreciation of your positive features overcomes the "ick" and "he's not a kpop boy band member" factors that they initially notice. People can also figure out who's in a relationship and who's looking without embarrassing themselves. This form of courtship, coincidentally, has been attacked by each successive sexual revolution.
I'm generalizing in several places, but I doubt that most relationships are going to happen through cold approach in a healthy society, whether that's in person or on a Jewish dating app.
I'll often see in television shows adult mixers, single meetups, and general adult mingling events. I've never personally known how to find them in my neck of the woods, or if they exist. Of course I'm an extremely awkward person so I don't going looking for them either.
That's not actually what I mean because that's too formal. Singles meet-ups might not be a good place to get to know someone. Instead, what I'm talking about is a club. Something like a book club, a gardening group, or something along those lines.
Nerds tend to have DM groups, and tend to use those to get into relationships, and party members can make safe recommendations of men and women they've already socialized with. It's not designed to be a "singles meet up", but it it does allow for regular social engagements.
This way, you never actually have to have the artificial pressure of a "hook up" engagement. Instead, you are already in a safe and comfortable social environment, and you can engage with your potential partner over the safe topic being discussed. That way, rejection can be very soft, and you can go on about enjoying the hobby instead.
How do you square this with the increasing gender polarization? Men and women are both retreating into same sex social groups more than ever from what I can tell.