Woman with slightly more sense in the comments:

Uppity Hobbit: Maker of Things @uppityhobbit She’s right. As someone who had been working hard at overcoming anxious attachment though…I would counsel women to be mindful of their Asks. Because whatever the little thing is you would like - once you ASK for it, it so easily becomes an “if you love me you would do this little thing” shibboleth. So let’s say the girl in the relationship had a perfectly lovely guy who suited her and mostly met her needs and she was HAPPY with him. UNTIL she decided she ought to be getting Good Morning texts. And it all snowballed from there.

Now obviously, if he was just generally neglectful and unaffectionate- and if he NEVER was attentive to her requests, fair enough. But I think we can mess up good things with “gosh it would be sweet if…okay now I NEED THAT and yoh aren’t meeting my NEEDS”