Personality is half genetic, half environment and is usually set in stone by the time you reach adulthood. Generally not much you can do as an adult. For example, if you're an introvert, you're going to remain an introvert regardless of what you do. Lying is emotionally tiring and eventually you won't be able to keep up the lie and you'll be found out.
A lot of the mental help, self-help and coaching programmes completely disregard reality, don't consider individual limitations and promise the world yet fail to deliver for most, only engaging in survivorship bias and publicising those who would have succeeded regardless.
if you're an introvert, you're going to remain an introvert regardless of what you do
I don't even agree with that framing. People have different interests which includes different levels of sociability. That doesn't mean social skills can't be learned and practiced, like any other skill. The fact that a person would prefer to avoid the ambiguity and tension of social situations doesn't mean he can't be trained in how to properly handle them.
I reject is the idea that there are different "kinds" of people. Even if there are on a genetic level that the expressed behavioral distinction isnt clear enough to allow for meaningful categorization.
Personality is half genetic, half environment and is usually set in stone by the time you reach adulthood. Generally not much you can do as an adult. For example, if you're an introvert, you're going to remain an introvert regardless of what you do. Lying is emotionally tiring and eventually you won't be able to keep up the lie and you'll be found out.
A lot of the mental help, self-help and coaching programmes completely disregard reality, don't consider individual limitations and promise the world yet fail to deliver for most, only engaging in survivorship bias and publicising those who would have succeeded regardless.
I don't even agree with that framing. People have different interests which includes different levels of sociability. That doesn't mean social skills can't be learned and practiced, like any other skill. The fact that a person would prefer to avoid the ambiguity and tension of social situations doesn't mean he can't be trained in how to properly handle them.
Introverts can have strong social skills.
Although I suppose you might be using the modem usage of the term which essentially means socially awkward, in which case your comment makes sense.
I reject is the idea that there are different "kinds" of people. Even if there are on a genetic level that the expressed behavioral distinction isnt clear enough to allow for meaningful categorization.