We grew up (well, my age demo did anyway) in the "ashes of civilization" and many, myself included, did not have the blessing to have or see good, stable families in our most formative years. Putting aside the existence of some who intentionally make social practices like marriage seem utterly miserable, we shouldn't be surprised they write what they do because what other experience do they have?

I couldn't tell you what makes a good marriage but thankfully I do know they exist because I see them every time I go to my parish. I wouldn't have said this ten years ago!