Trad West wanting men to be good, overworked goys
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Yes. That is the nature of a relationship. It's like saying if I buy a plant I'll have to give it water forever: yes, that's what you need to do when you have a plant.
Similarly, you have to have provide a woman material grounding for her metaphysical presence, and vise versa.
This is not about enabling. This is about actually trying to solve the root of the problem. Obviously, you tell a woman no when necessary. But you also need to understand what the metaphysical issue that is at the root of that. Is your son being annoying and needy because he's a stupid child and should be punished for being worthless, or is it because he actually wants his father's attention and affirmation, because he's insecure about something?
There are women who don't act so unreasonable and childish as the examples you're both describing.
That's fair but in my experience, it's usually the latter. You're constantly having to battle what is reasonable and what is not such that it isn't worth it. I've done that for year before and in the end she may just leave you anyway because she wants a guy that doesn't tell her no even when he ought to.
Obviously, you're going to have women you can't do anything with, but that's why you have to include women in your search whom you are able to contribute to.