Obviously we don't want to get into legal territory here, but I'm sure most men have been through this, on at least some "informal" level, at least previously...
The entire saga has taken place via text. I didn't say anything explicit, and was never given any indication that this individual was "uncomfortable". Literally no words were exchanged to that effect. In fact, most discussion was about our mutual studies. I had a slight feeling something was "off", from this girl's behaviour more broadly, but again, no direct indication was given...
Anyway, it has been some time since we had actually spoken, but today I am told that she has reported me to the University. Just informally, but the head of the student counselling department wants to pursue an investigation into me, lololol...
I have a record of the entire exchange. I haven't broken any laws, here, so unless there's some informal rule about "Her word against yours" (which I'm sure there probably is), I think I'm largely ok. Reputational damage is likely the main issue...
Anyway, like I said, in the court of "He said, she said", obviously they will side with her, but if this is a case based purely on "feelings", then who fucking knows how far she will get...
Just a fucking waste of my time. I've got so much other shit going on (my grandmother literally died two days ago, so to say this is low on my priority list..? Is an understatement), that I really just want to minimise impact, and get the fucking thing over with...
Eugh.
Yes, it's my own stupid fault for letting this one in. Yes, it's very High School. But like I said, I can calmly say that I did not actually do anything objectively wrong, here.
It is what it is, and I'm stuck with it. Like most college-age straight males who've had even the barest bit of experience, lol.
Do you have friends? Destroy this bitch's reputation and tell everyone you know about the shit she pulled.
You have the texts and they are innocuous right? make a throwaway and post them to reddit and show that this bitch tried to blow you up over nothing with a false accusation.
What did she report you for?
Making her feel "uncomfortable", apparently. One assumes from texting her twice more, some weeks apart, after being ghosted, to ask her perspective on an assignment for a subject I was taking, that she had previously taken.
Re the texts, yeah, maybe I will do that at some point...
Right now, she wants to "escalate" (lol), so I really don't want to do anything too unsubtle, yet...
Most dubious thing? This was a private conversation, carried out off campus, and yet the University went to the effort to track me down (I presume by reverse-matching my mobile number), and demand my testimony, via repeated phone calls and emails...
Like, I'm not sure that should happen.
We're both students, yes, but if it wasn't conducted over University property/email/in class, and clearly doesn't warrant law enforcement, then why the fuck have they dragged my position as a student into it..?
I guess it underlines that they are "taking it seriously", but also, the fuck?
So yeah, whatever happens, it's all a bit iffy...
You committed the crime of interacting with a woman while not being Chad.
Legit, yeah. This is pretty much it, lol…
Though “Fuck off, loser” would have saved us both a lot of time and effort… 🤷🏻♂️
Her excuse would be that she's afraid you'd "one in five" her.