Obviously we don't want to get into legal territory here, but I'm sure most men have been through this, on at least some "informal" level, at least previously...
The entire saga has taken place via text. I didn't say anything explicit, and was never given any indication that this individual was "uncomfortable". Literally no words were exchanged to that effect. In fact, most discussion was about our mutual studies. I had a slight feeling something was "off", from this girl's behaviour more broadly, but again, no direct indication was given...
Anyway, it has been some time since we had actually spoken, but today I am told that she has reported me to the University. Just informally, but the head of the student counselling department wants to pursue an investigation into me, lololol...
I have a record of the entire exchange. I haven't broken any laws, here, so unless there's some informal rule about "Her word against yours" (which I'm sure there probably is), I think I'm largely ok. Reputational damage is likely the main issue...
Anyway, like I said, in the court of "He said, she said", obviously they will side with her, but if this is a case based purely on "feelings", then who fucking knows how far she will get...
Just a fucking waste of my time. I've got so much other shit going on (my grandmother literally died two days ago, so to say this is low on my priority list..? Is an understatement), that I really just want to minimise impact, and get the fucking thing over with...
Eugh.
Yes, it's my own stupid fault for letting this one in. Yes, it's very High School. But like I said, I can calmly say that I did not actually do anything objectively wrong, here.
It is what it is, and I'm stuck with it. Like most college-age straight males who've had even the barest bit of experience, lol.
You committed the crime of interacting with a woman while not being Chad.
Legit, yeah. This is pretty much it, lol…
Though “Fuck off, loser” would have saved us both a lot of time and effort… 🤷🏻♂️
Her excuse would be that she's afraid you'd "one in five" her.
Probably.
Look, it’s worth pointing out that this girl and I have had very little in-person interaction. I don’t know, nor care to find out, any more about her.
She literally could have blocked my number, and/or told me to shove off, and that would have been the end of it, but that’s not what happened.
I suppose she can claim that as a “legitimate” fear, but anyone looking at the interaction objectively should be able to see that possibility as pretty much beyond remote…
So there’s that, I guess.
It just shows this whole thing to be very fucking wacky…
I completely agree. I've actually asked some of the more insecure women I know if they actually walk around all day being genuinely afraid of men. Some have answered that they do. I simply don't understand how someone could walk around in fear of half the population. At that point, why even leave the house? Constant terror lol. The absolute state of western women.