Trying to "get" women as a goal in itself is a bad plan. In simple terms, women don't like desperate men, and they can tell from men's behaviour how desperate they are. Setting a goal to "get" a woman increases your desperation, especially if you set a numeric goal to attain, and thus is counter productive. A better tactic is to improve yourself in other ways, take opportunity to flirt when they arise but be indifferent to actually "getting" women.
I mainly tried it because it gives an excuse to shut them down without having to waste time letting them down easy. I was hoping that word would spread that I was unavailable. It didn't work. Weirdly, nobody ever called me out when I stopped wearing it and stopped claiming to be married.
Having no social media under my real name means nobody can check my real life, so I guess I could get away with obvious lies more easily?
Trying to "get" women as a goal in itself is a bad plan. In simple terms, women don't like desperate men, and they can tell from men's behaviour how desperate they are. Setting a goal to "get" a woman increases your desperation, especially if you set a numeric goal to attain, and thus is counter productive. A better tactic is to improve yourself in other ways, take opportunity to flirt when they arise but be indifferent to actually "getting" women.
I agree, within reason. Although feigning disinterest/aloofness just does not work, either…
At least in my experience.
There must be a “happy medium”, but I am entirely yet to find it, myself, unfortunately…
They can tell you're faking it.
I have complete disinterest and they approach me.
It's not fun. I tried wearing a fake wedding ring, that didn't get rid of them either.
Surely you know that this is meant to make things worse?
I mainly tried it because it gives an excuse to shut them down without having to waste time letting them down easy. I was hoping that word would spread that I was unavailable. It didn't work. Weirdly, nobody ever called me out when I stopped wearing it and stopped claiming to be married.
Having no social media under my real name means nobody can check my real life, so I guess I could get away with obvious lies more easily?