I think it's hard to judge without more details. Some dads are out of line. Sometimes it's the mothers who don't work and don't parent.

Either way our society is fucked because men = bad and women = good despite knowing the situation.

Men seem to be the ones who are even trying to acknowledge nuance.

My English teacher in highschool had us read this poem. He said it was his favorite, and we would understand it one day. The older I get, the more I feel it. I hear you..

Those Winter Sundays

Sundays too my father got up early
and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
then with cracked hands that ached
from labor in the weekday weather made
banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him.

I’d wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he’d call,
and slowly I would rise and dress,
fearing the chronic angers of that house,

Speaking indifferently to him,
who had driven out the cold
and polished my good shoes as well.
What did I know, what did I know
of love’s austere and lonely offices?

I don't even know if it's a matter of "taking crap" as opposed to "taking responsibility".

If I'm responsible for getting a job done, and some idiot co-worker is messing it up, I get pissed. If some idiot on the road or in a parking lot puts my car at risk, which I'm responsible for, I get pissed. If I come home to my house, which I'm responsible for, and some lazy wife left it trashed, or some shit-heel kid broke something, I get pissed.

The biggest problem I have with "extreme responsibility" is that I now realize that 99% of people are total assholes, who have no problem destroying somebody's property or trashing a public space if they think they won't get caught. The other 1% are heroes that keep civilization running.