So, is my brain wired weirdly or something? I'm a woman but I'd rather die than comply and let someone just do what they want to me. I know I can't physically fight a male so I carry a weapon (and think every innocent person should have the right to do so) and, if I can't get to it in time, I'm prepared to fight dirty. Go fast and hard at the balls, eyes, slam at their nose with my wrist. Anything.
Kinda sick to think my sex is so weak to want the posted reality. I think weak males who want the first shot want this, too.
Possibly, there are always outliers. Or perhaps you're simply in denial because such a reality makes you look morally deficient and the ego could not survive such scrutiny.
Personal situation aside, yes your sex is exactly that weak. The disparity in physical aptitude between men and women is on the scale of the Grand Canyon. Most women have no idea the actual degree to which they will be outclassed in a physical confrontation with a man, and the stream of Hollywood fantasies has done nothing to remedy this.
I could be in denial. I've never been in a situation where I really needed to defend myself. I think prevention is an often overlooked aspect to self defense. Don't go to a party alone (if you do, you must maintain your senses, I would say don't drink at all and definitely DO NOT accept drinks, keep your drink in your possession) or have at least one trusted friend to stay sober and keep an eye on you (established beforehand and repay them for babysitting afterward). I think giving off body language that screams "if you mess with me I'll make sure it hurts" too, because there were times I had to go to downtown Chicago at sketchy hours for work around the holidays (retail) and have only had one weirdo kinda try to get in my face but backed off quickly without a word from me.
I also don't dress like a slut or openly carry valuables (in fact when I lived in Chicago I didn't carry a purse and kept a thin wallet in my pocket like a man would) I've always believed in traveling light and inconspicuously.
Anyway, sorry for the brick of text, I'm sure it's not needed here, but I guess I have some hope that some defiant girl will come in here looking to start a fight in favor of OP and that this might actually help her stop seeing herself as a victim and start realizing there are things she can control to protect herself.
100% agree. It just seems to me, especially for self defence, preventative measures are more often on the back burner and actually considered an insult.
"Don't judge my clothes! Tell men not to rape!" "I shouldn't have to keep an eye on my drink! Tell people not to drug drinks!" No shit toots. The bad guys don't care. It's on you to protect yourself from bad guys who don't care about you.
I notice this mentality becoming increasingly popular with heath, too. The HAES movement and all. Sad really.
They're just making a generalization, which a lot of people do here. That's fine but some go too far and apply their generalizations to individuals. There are only two sexes but obviously people fall on a spectrum of personality traits with some more feminine and some more masculine regardless of sex. At the risk of sounding rude, you have those manly traits. It's not "weird" since there are plenty of women like that - just not the majority by nature.
Since individuals can vary so much I can respect gender roles but don't agree with limiting someone's position in life due to their sex, as long as we're not lowering standards to let women into men's roles. (we are and that's a problem)
No offense taken. There are a lot of great masculine/"manly" traits and I'm happy to have them.
And I agree 100% with your last point. I guess another "manly" trait I have is the want to be successful, or rightly fail, due to my own merits, not my sex. Any other treatment is condescending. Honestly the fact that's what modern feminists seem to want seems completely against the whole spirit of the original intent but I'm no expert on any of that.
So, is my brain wired weirdly or something? I'm a woman but I'd rather die than comply and let someone just do what they want to me. I know I can't physically fight a male so I carry a weapon (and think every innocent person should have the right to do so) and, if I can't get to it in time, I'm prepared to fight dirty. Go fast and hard at the balls, eyes, slam at their nose with my wrist. Anything.
Kinda sick to think my sex is so weak to want the posted reality. I think weak males who want the first shot want this, too.
Possibly, there are always outliers. Or perhaps you're simply in denial because such a reality makes you look morally deficient and the ego could not survive such scrutiny.
Personal situation aside, yes your sex is exactly that weak. The disparity in physical aptitude between men and women is on the scale of the Grand Canyon. Most women have no idea the actual degree to which they will be outclassed in a physical confrontation with a man, and the stream of Hollywood fantasies has done nothing to remedy this.
I could be in denial. I've never been in a situation where I really needed to defend myself. I think prevention is an often overlooked aspect to self defense. Don't go to a party alone (if you do, you must maintain your senses, I would say don't drink at all and definitely DO NOT accept drinks, keep your drink in your possession) or have at least one trusted friend to stay sober and keep an eye on you (established beforehand and repay them for babysitting afterward). I think giving off body language that screams "if you mess with me I'll make sure it hurts" too, because there were times I had to go to downtown Chicago at sketchy hours for work around the holidays (retail) and have only had one weirdo kinda try to get in my face but backed off quickly without a word from me.
I also don't dress like a slut or openly carry valuables (in fact when I lived in Chicago I didn't carry a purse and kept a thin wallet in my pocket like a man would) I've always believed in traveling light and inconspicuously.
Anyway, sorry for the brick of text, I'm sure it's not needed here, but I guess I have some hope that some defiant girl will come in here looking to start a fight in favor of OP and that this might actually help her stop seeing herself as a victim and start realizing there are things she can control to protect herself.
Preventative maintenance is a top shelf approach to a great number of things in life, not just self defense.
100% agree. It just seems to me, especially for self defence, preventative measures are more often on the back burner and actually considered an insult.
"Don't judge my clothes! Tell men not to rape!" "I shouldn't have to keep an eye on my drink! Tell people not to drug drinks!" No shit toots. The bad guys don't care. It's on you to protect yourself from bad guys who don't care about you.
I notice this mentality becoming increasingly popular with heath, too. The HAES movement and all. Sad really.
They're just making a generalization, which a lot of people do here. That's fine but some go too far and apply their generalizations to individuals. There are only two sexes but obviously people fall on a spectrum of personality traits with some more feminine and some more masculine regardless of sex. At the risk of sounding rude, you have those manly traits. It's not "weird" since there are plenty of women like that - just not the majority by nature.
Since individuals can vary so much I can respect gender roles but don't agree with limiting someone's position in life due to their sex, as long as we're not lowering standards to let women into men's roles. (we are and that's a problem)
Then you don’t really respect gender roles.
No offense taken. There are a lot of great masculine/"manly" traits and I'm happy to have them.
And I agree 100% with your last point. I guess another "manly" trait I have is the want to be successful, or rightly fail, due to my own merits, not my sex. Any other treatment is condescending. Honestly the fact that's what modern feminists seem to want seems completely against the whole spirit of the original intent but I'm no expert on any of that.