The Women Who are involuntary Celibates
(www.theguardian.com)
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Exactly. She's literally projecting her shallowness onto potential mates. She's the one who is not going to have a relationship if she doesn't find the men in her life immediately attractive.
I mean, I'm not going to be a hypocrite and pretend that looks don't play a role in what I look for in a partner as well, but it's not at all what women make it out to seem; that it's the only thing men look for. In fact, as previously mentioned, that couldn't be farther from the truth.
But in her case, she's basing her entire view solely on her insecurities. It never actually clicks for her that her self-esteem issues and personality are probably the biggest factor that pushes men away.
Men value looks yes. But we're willing to compromise. More or equally important is kindness, a sense of humor, positivity, peace, meekness, submissiveness, and having common interests.
The women who can't connect or make a relationship work have none of those qualities.
They themselves are looking for men who are strong, powerful, successful, well off, career focused, confident, arrogant, flashy, charming, dominant, leaders, etc.
And they mold themselves into that, thinking that's what men want as well.
Then there they sit with their money, arrogance, condecention, success, dominant personalities, high society habits, and tinder pics next to expensive cars and wonder where all the good men are.
Men aren't turned on by that at all, they are repulsed by it.
The equivalent are boys who think that women like nice, soft, passive, submissive guys, because girls themselves are nice and soft. They end up equally bitter, wondering where all the goof girls are, afterall they should be throwing themselves after someone this kind and obedient and subservient.
The world doesn't work that way.