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I'm not going to defend women on this, but as someone who worked as a therapist for some time its not an accurate reflection of reality exactly.
Psychology was founded on and built for women. Nearly everything we understand and know about it is designed around helping women. To the point where its a huge controversy right now that a couple of researchers determined that using normal therapy techniques actually increases maladaptive behaviors and possible suicide when used on men, because its designed around how women act. That's why we have a surge of "man therapy" doctors cropping up (which is great, recommend them to anyone). If you aren't getting helped, and your doctor seems like a quack you won't take their labelling seriously.
Partly from this and partly out of good old male stubbornness when admitting problems they also just don't go. You can't get diagnosed with anything if you never go to a doctor at all.
Basically the lowness of men on this chart is just as big a problem as the highness of women.
As an addendum to an already long comment, women are disproportionately high because they are lazy and over emotional. They play up their negative symptoms considerably, which leads to easy diagnosis of anxiety/depression/BPD. And rather than sit there in therapy and just work through the issue like a muscle knot, they'd rather a lifelong commitment to a happy pill.
I would love some man therapy but 5.56 is too hard to find to have a range day.
Shit don't I know it.
Closest thing I ever get to man therapy is lifting heavy weights with my boys.
I can speak to your point about avoiding therapists. Doctor recommended one when I was younger, I refused to go. Never understood why telling someone I didn't know a ton of information would help anything.
Still don't, really. It doesn't help that they're nearly all women and therefore just looking for an excuse to dope you up.
Yeah I get that. I graduated one of 200 psychology majors in my undergrad. There were around 15 guys in that group. I wouldn't trust 90% of those girls with my car keys, let alone my feelings.
Its an industry churning out bitter, debt riddled women by the truckload and they only get the money to afford their bills by never fixing you and sending you to a psychiatrist for that heavy shit.
Can you give a source or something? It sounds like something that would never be allowed to receive media attention or publication, so it's hard to believe this kind of information is available.
Also, say more about "man therapy", it sounds interesting.
I wish I had one on me, but it was a topic of discussion in my undergrad around 5~ years ago. We had a lot of discussions on topics that wouldn't be allow attention outside the school itself because of how "problematic" it was. If I can track down my ancient notes I will update you though.
The gist being that men don't like to talk about our problems. Being forced to do so causes anxiety, and admission of weakness. Feelings of weakness are a cycle that don't go away easy and just spiral downward. 9/10 men in therapy are there by force, sometimes legal but often under threat/manipulation from a girlfriend/wife, which is a whole cavalcade of issues I could rant about forever. Just know there is a reason why Couple's Counseling is basically snake oil and everyone in the business knows it.
Man therapy is basically doing manly things in a healthy environment. Basically you are paying a therapist to take you to the gym, hiking, hunting, fishing, etc. (generally they choose, but you should find one in your interest range) and you basically bro it out. The feelings of accomplishment and returning to your simple roots helps remove the stress and anxieties of the over complex modern world and help you focus on what's bothering you.
A lot of times, the self-confidence boost from these activities alone is enough to swipe away the itching in your mind. Other times its the relaxation you feel, as well as the trust/rapport with your doc, allows you to better think and articulate the problems you are having and then a generic therapy session endures.
Regardless of the exact form taken, its doing what your grandad did almost. Dealing with his problems with whiskey, his bros, and a manly hobby. Shockingly he knew what he was doing because it works wonders.
It kinda blows my mind that it's become necessary to reinvent the wheel in such a way. I hope this 'new field' continues to grow.
For a while now, I've had the notion that a good friend can do the job of a good therapist. It's how I often try to describe the benefit of therapy to other people. I suppose I was a little naive - not everyone wants to have the type of friend you talk to about personal shit. But this reaffirms that having a good friend will likely prevent the need for a therapist, not that gaining such a friend doesn't have its own difficulties.
It's also a glimmer of hope, in a way. This could be the start of seriously re-evaluating how useful our discarded traditions were, followed by re-introducing them into public acceptance. (rabid smear campaigns aside)
It is and isn't. There is a lot of pushback from the political and ideologues in the field, because psychology is basically a propaganda arm for the Progressive Movement, but there are genuine altruistic people going into the field every day and plenty of older folks who do only care about helping at the top. So despite the attempts to keep it on the downlow (you'll rarely read about it, or have it offered to you) it still exists and gets its name out there.
I think the lack of closeness is necessary for therapy to do its job where a friend can't. Your buddy you can call a fag and ignore him, but a trained professional (who you are paying, sunken cost fallacy and all) holds different weight. He also knows when to pounce and when to let off on what you say, how to manipulate you into running face first into the truth and admitting it, and how to de-escalate if stuff spirals out of control. A good friend can prevent the need like you say, but once its too late they are likely not enough to undo the damage alone.
One part of the man therapy process though is helping you gain the confidence to go out and involve yourself in these hobbies once the therapy ceases, which is how you gain a squad of good bros for life.
I wouldn't rely on it to be your ray of hope though. This is a bandaid for fixing broken men, but broken people will never be right again just better. We need to actually stop the problem at its source to get anywhere.