A lot of the problems come from pastors telling the single mothers in their congregations what they want to hear. I read a good take from a based pastor who made it a point to distinguish God's forgiveness from men's vetting of wife material. Basically there's no contradiction between a whore receiving forgiveness for her sins and men deeming her unsuitable for marriage. The fucked up thing is that it's not even that they can't find a chump to wife them up. It's that the chumps willing to do so aren't the top men they feel entitled to. Since accountability is women's kryptonite it's easier to get the pastor to try to shame single men into paying for their bad choices.

A lot of the problems come from pastors telling the single mothers in their congregations what they want to hear. I read a good take from a based pastor who made it a point to distinguish God's forgiveness from men's vetting of wife material. Basically there's no contradiction between a whore receiving forgiveness for her sins and men men deeming her unsuitable for marriage. The fucked up thing is that it's not even that they can't find a chump to wife them up. It's that the chumps willing to do so aren't the top men they feel entitled to. Since accountability is women's kryptonite it's easier to get the pastor to try to shame single men into paying for their bad choices.