I have multiple friends that attend classes, meetups, book clubs, do activism, all attendees are women and there are zero men.

Because those activities are tedious and suck. It's a fundamental misunderstanding of why men and women do things.

Classes? I find it kind of odd that someone who seems pretty plugged into cyber-everything would think attending a class in person, paced to the lowest common denominator, is the best way to learn any skill. There's pretty much infinite resources to learn anything self-directed now. *

Meetups? Unnecessarily structured. Occasionally can be nice for being introduced to people with common interests if you're new to an area, but once you have a friend group you'll pick up new acquaintances by chaining and it will filter out a lot of the people you wouldn't want to interact with who might be at a meetup.

Book clubs? Just read the damn book and enjoy it. Think about it yourself. Maybe recommend it to a friend and talk about it later. Making it a scheduled social even, again, unnecessarily structured. This is just a way to make it about you instead of the book.

Activism? Vast majority of activists are insufferable retards. I'm hard-pressed to think of a group I'd less like to spend time around. Also, it's 2025. You can "organize" whatever without having a little gathering. If it's a pretense for a social get together, just have the social get together.

Pretty much all of these are, "what group can I join to compel others to interact with me socially." That's a very feminine take. Men went to classes to learn. Men participated in activism to change things. The meetup aspect was the means, not the end. If the ends is socializing, we'll just call up some friends and go socialize. We don't feel the need to dress it up as something else.

* Yeah there are exceptions when specific equipment is involved and you need to learn hands-on, but that isn't the common case.

I have multiple friends that attend classes, meetups, book clubs, do activism, all attendees are women and there are zero men.

Because those activities are tedious and suck. It's a fundamental misunderstanding of why men and women do things.

Classes? I find it kind of odd that someone who seems pretty plugged into cyber-everything would think attending a class in person, paced to the lowest common denominator, is the best way to learn any skill. There's pretty much infinite resources to learn anything self-directed now. *

Meetups? Unnecessarily structured. Occasionally can be nice for being introduced to people with common interests if you're new to an area, but once you have a friend group you'll pick up new acquaintances by chaining and it will filter out a lot of the people you wouldn't want to interact with who might be at a meetup.

Book clubs? Just read the damn book and enjoy it. Think about it yourself. Maybe recommend it to a friend and talk about it later. Making it a scheduled social even, again, unnecessarily structured. This is just a way to make it about you instead of the book.

Activism? Vast majority of activists are insufferable retards. I'm hard-pressed to think of a group I'd less like to spend time around. Also, it's 2025. You can "organize" whatever without having a little gathering. If it's a pretense for a social get together, just have the social get together.

Pretty much all of these are, "what group can I join to compel others to interact with me socially." That's a very feminine take. Men went to classes to learn. Men participated in activism to change things. The meetup aspect was the means, not the end. If the ends is socializing, we'll just call up some friends and go socialize. We don't feel the need to dress it up as something else.

* Yeah there are exceptions when specialty equipment is involved, but that isn't the normal case.