Cool, I like your take.

Where I think it's weak though is on the whole "men provide", aspect. If women work just as hard as men and earn just as much (as many do), then what do men provide for women? Not much at all. It's clear that women don't provide what men want. A 35yo PhD female with a 8-6pm job with high stress offers men absolutely nothing that men want. On the other hand she likely earns more than most men so most men can't provide her what she supposedly wants. And if we pretend men/women are equal such that their wants/needs can flip so a woman just wants comfort and a man wants her to provide; it still doesn't work because men make enough for themselves and would see the effort woman would want of them to provide "comfort" is too much since they already earn enough to provide resources which should be enough.

How do we fix this as a society?

Cool, I like your take.

Where I think it's weak though is on the whole "men provide", aspect. If women work just as hard as men and earn just as much (as many do), then what do men provide for women? Not much at all. It's clear that women don't provide what men want. A 35yo PhD female with a 8-6pm job with high stress offers men absolutely nothing that men want. On the other hand she likely earns more than most men so most men can't provide her what she supposedly wants. And if we pretend men/women are equal such that their wants/needs can flip so a woman just wants comfort and a man wants her to provide; it still doesn't work because men make enough for themselves and would see the effort woman would want of them to provide "comfort" is too much.

How do we fix this as a society?