Read a tweet today about why Gen Z men are not "manning up" and cold approaching women. It's obviously the fear of getting your life ruined, not the fear of rejection.
This is established fact for virtually anyone who's ever thought about the subject (besides NPCs).
But my thought is even if you somehow took away the risk of ruining your life, there are a lot of problems with expecting men to find relationships by walking into the buzzsaw of cold approaches over and over. First of all, it kind of hurts to get turned down based on your physical appearance, and the appearance of 80% of men is inadequate on its own. You can make up for that with banter and flirting. But is it realistic to expect every man, or even most men, to develop the level of game needed to pick up girls off the street?
Second, most attractive women you see on the street already have a boyfriend. Not a meme boyfriend, an actual dude. Now it is true that if you're Timothee Chalamet you can probably turn half of those women into cheating hoes, but why would you want to given that you're going for a serious relationship? In the end it's just very awkward for both parties to go through the script again and again. "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." [forced smile] "Oh, my bad sorry"
In the past women were somewhat more likely to take cold approaches as a compliment. Disclaimer: somewhat more likely. Today the infinite choice of online dating has more than filled women's thirst to be admired, so getting approached in public mostly makes them annoyed for the same reason that most people prefer to be emailed rather than called.
There is a way for guys who aren't male models to be attractive to women: get to know them in a mutual community so their appreciation of your positive features overcomes the "ick" and "he's not a kpop boy band member" factors that they initially notice. People can also figure out who's in a relationship and who's looking without embarrassing themselves. This form of courtship, coincidentally, has been attacked by each successive sexual revolution.
I'm generalizing in several places, but I doubt that most relationships are going to happen through cold approach in a healthy society, whether that's in person or on a Jewish dating app.
i'm just amazed at the magnitude of the fuckup by the "cultural stewards of society". how the fuck do you make the value proposition of getting a partner so bad, that even with all the 20-yo male hormone storm putting the finger on the scales on your side, more and more men still go "eh. not worth the trouble".
It was done intentionally to destroy relationships. All sex is rape, children oppress women, women are formless beings, etc.
Relationships were intentionally killed because it makes you dependent on ideology more than practical sentiment.
sure. The world is a hostile place. Plenty of forces want you robbed to your last cent at best, raped and dying in a ditch at worst (or, not even at worst, they have plenty of imagination).
The basic design of every society implies that you, as an adult, are capable of identifying, and brushing aside the crude obviously hostile manipulative "social engineering" shit.
It is supposed to be the job of churches, unions, clubs and all other low-level groups to help you with this. Instead, they all sold us out.
churches, I blame the most for this. They're the ones suposed to have the most stable moral compass. When all else fails, a beacon of meaning in a sea of despair. And they squandered it all on bullshit crusades.
I'm increasingly coming to the conclusion that our fathers and grand fathers were and are traitors to their God, sons and country.
The circumstances that my great-grandfather, grandfather, and father met their wives literally do not exist anymore.
There's blame to be placed, but I don't really put it at their feet.