You are 100% correct and it's quite apparent. The irony though is I've dated hundreds of women and her neuroticism traits STILL make her better than the vast majority of women I've encountered. All women are fucked. If you think the woman you're with isn't you just can't see it which is probably worse because you can't work around it until it blows up in your face and you'll never see it coming.

Taking another position, one might even argue the more women are scared of men the better they act overall.