I do believe men do in fact need to change their behavior around women. Men and women are different. The kinds of things men do with other men to build respect/comradery and to test the men are not things men should be doing to women. Too many men make the mistake of treating women as equal to men when women are not equal to men at all. Men should be treating women as if the women cannot handle confrontation, conflict or anything too disruptive to their feelings. Men should be aware that women internalize everything and that women don't understand how to separate themselves from generalizations. This means men should in fact be "softer" around women because women can't handle men being truly men around women.
This is why it's very very important for men to get involved in male only activities that have 0 women. Men need these all boys clubs so men can be men. With women invading men's spaces and trying to make sure everything is mixed, it has made it more difficult for men to truly be men but this is very important. Men can't be tippy toeing around women's sensitivities their whole life, they need an opportunity to be men. Try to join some sort of sport, group, activity, etc... that is men only and focus on developing male only comradery without women. Then the times you do engage with women, make sure to treat the women differently because women cannot truly handle being treated the same way men treat men because they are women and they are different.
Equality is an entirely false notion and the men who keep trying to treat women as equal to men are going to keep fucking up. Women are not equal to men, the end. You don't treat a dog the same way you treat a cat because you know they're different. You expect different behaviors and you accomodate the differences. That is how you must treat women. Don't treat them as equal to men, treat women like women.
We can already see the negative consequences of absolute equality and the lack of delineated male and female spaces in action. It's not that men need to treat women softer to protect those women - it's that if forced into mixed spaces long enough, men will subconsciously alter their behavior to fit in with the needs of women, and not realizing they've done that, our entire culture changes to be more feminized or matriarchal.
For example...
women don't understand how to separate themselves from generalizations
Obviously not true for all women, but if we assume it's generally true, to avoid unnecessarily conflict men will learn not to generalize ever. To be politically correct and avoid hurting the other person's feelings. They won't intentionally do this around women only - they'll simply do it naturally with everyone. They'll be less honest and direct, something which makes us all worse off over time. Not to mention other examples of "toxic femininity" which are not conducive to a health society. That behavior needs to be kept isolated to female-only spaces.
Correct and the men who realize what's going on and try to act what's in their nature, end up vilified by the groups which makes them feel alienated and secluded leading to depression and other problems.
I will say one other thing.
I do believe men do in fact need to change their behavior around women. Men and women are different. The kinds of things men do with other men to build respect/comradery and to test the men are not things men should be doing to women. Too many men make the mistake of treating women as equal to men when women are not equal to men at all. Men should be treating women as if the women cannot handle confrontation, conflict or anything too disruptive to their feelings. Men should be aware that women internalize everything and that women don't understand how to separate themselves from generalizations. This means men should in fact be "softer" around women because women can't handle men being truly men around women.
This is why it's very very important for men to get involved in male only activities that have 0 women. Men need these all boys clubs so men can be men. With women invading men's spaces and trying to make sure everything is mixed, it has made it more difficult for men to truly be men but this is very important. Men can't be tippy toeing around women's sensitivities their whole life, they need an opportunity to be men. Try to join some sort of sport, group, activity, etc... that is men only and focus on developing male only comradery without women. Then the times you do engage with women, make sure to treat the women differently because women cannot truly handle being treated the same way men treat men because they are women and they are different.
Equality is an entirely false notion and the men who keep trying to treat women as equal to men are going to keep fucking up. Women are not equal to men, the end. You don't treat a dog the same way you treat a cat because you know they're different. You expect different behaviors and you accomodate the differences. That is how you must treat women. Don't treat them as equal to men, treat women like women.
We can already see the negative consequences of absolute equality and the lack of delineated male and female spaces in action. It's not that men need to treat women softer to protect those women - it's that if forced into mixed spaces long enough, men will subconsciously alter their behavior to fit in with the needs of women, and not realizing they've done that, our entire culture changes to be more feminized or matriarchal.
For example...
Obviously not true for all women, but if we assume it's generally true, to avoid unnecessarily conflict men will learn not to generalize ever. To be politically correct and avoid hurting the other person's feelings. They won't intentionally do this around women only - they'll simply do it naturally with everyone. They'll be less honest and direct, something which makes us all worse off over time. Not to mention other examples of "toxic femininity" which are not conducive to a health society. That behavior needs to be kept isolated to female-only spaces.
Correct and the men who realize what's going on and try to act what's in their nature, end up vilified by the groups which makes them feel alienated and secluded leading to depression and other problems.