I’ll tolerate the girl boss fantasy if the aesthetic and personality of the character appeal to me as a heterosexual man.

I'd argue that's not "girl boss." That has a pretty specific meaning and, even in the rare occasions where girl bosses are actually attractive females, it's still a turn off. That said, yes, I can appreciate a competent, badass woman. Just not a "girl boss."

Otherwise, I’m not interested, and I don’t care whether or not woke scolds approve my preferences.

Agreed. Never care about what the woke scolds thing, unless you're ridiculing them or otherwise arming yourself against them.