Original post: https://www.aaronrenn.com/p/stop-shaming-men
Archive post: https://archive.ph/JzmQy
It’s one of the most well known facts in social science that women initiate the vast majority of divorces – around 70% or so depending on the source you look at. It’s a fact I have never heard an evangelical pastor mention. In fact, as one feminist scholar found in her academic research, in evangelical sermons ‘women are framed primarily as receivers of divorce rather than initiators.’ And, while there have been improvements, divorce court and child custody practices still favor women. . . . It’s also worth asking what Blake – and by extension the rest of the evangelical leadership class – are doing to reduce these risks, help men manage them, or to create an environment in which men have a better chance of marital success. The answer is basically nothing. . . . They could tell men, “Get married and we’ve got your back.” But they don’t. Instead, should some man actually get married and any troubles arise, they will almost certainly blame him for it.”
Evangelicals, is there nothing they can't fuck up?
Evangelical churches have utterly failed young men for decades. My story is like many others:
Be a regular participant in church & youth group in mid/highschool. Grouped with kids relatively my own age. Activities are mixed gender.
Reach college age.
Zero programs, outreach, or classes for single men 18-35. You’re grouped with old men you have nothing in common with or nothing.
ABSOLUTELY NO FRATERNIZATION WITH WOMEN OF ANY TYPE!! No co-mingling programs, classes, anything, with women.
Your pursuit of a career is demonized. Your pursuit of women is demonized. You’re not allowed to talk to church women because then you’re some kind of predator.
If you do talk to church women you quickly find they are either raging whores or completely inexperienced with dating.
Both types of women are a side chick to a married man already. Either emotionally, physically, or both.
Same impossible standards of secular women apply to evangelicals except they add religion to the mix.
Realize it’s easier just to try to meet girls in school, work, or the bar.
Church practically turns into a nunnery.
The only men that pass through are married & they pick up a side chick or two.
That sounds like a you problem. Go to another church. Although I don't disagree with many of those problems