Yesterday, after work, I went to the store to take just the flu shot, told the person injecting me to give me an extra bandage, which was branded with the logo of the store, put that bandage on in the bathroom, and went home.
Mom asked me where I went, I told her I took the shots, showed her the bandages, she asked if I had my card, I said I did but she never asked for it, and then I went on with my day.
I’m still waiting to see if the shoe drops and she asks to see my card within the next few days, but if that happens, I’ve taken all of you guys’ advice into account, but so far I’m good.
I did it this way mainly because my appointment time, but Mom wasn’t mad or anything that I went without her, last night was just a bit hectic, but hopefully it’s over for now. I’m still looking for places to move, as I definitely don’t wanna deal with this again, but damn, I didn’t know that lower income housing had waiting lists.
I also think he fucked up, but for different reasons. He's somewhat betrayed or undermined the value of his position by using deception instead of the position's inherent legitimacy. You don't want to develop habits where you give others openings to dismiss you because you undermined or shortchanged yourself.
This is true, but if it comes up it would be worth mentioning that she threatened to evict OP if he didn't get the jab.
If she had simply asked, with no conditions, lying would be unequivocably cowardly. Things are different when basic needs come into the equation.
I agree, OP can mitigate the impact of lying by bringing this up.
Speaking in terms of a position's inherent legitimacy is all well and good when both parties are standing as approximate equals.
In this case when someone is still living at home...well let's just say I didn't always tell my parents the whole unadulterated truth when I was living under their roof. He can break the news to his mom after he's successfully made a life for himself on his own, and the blow will be significantly lessened by that fact.