There's a lot to be said about the advice being given by women to men that may be given in good faith but is terrible advice (it would be described as a fisherman asking the fish how to catch them) and the fantasy concepts including the concept of the "soul mate" in dating programmes, fictional stories and general parlance. In the same regard we don't speak frankly about the dark truth of our mortality so we developed the concept of the after life, we do the same thing about mating and dating. The problem is, it fools men and messes them up for life.
I agree that women give terrible advice and that it is similar to the fish giving advice to the fisherman on how to catch them.
I don't agree that much of the "advice" messes men up for life because it fools them. I think what messes men up is that once men understand how the game works between man and woman what men want is generally impossible to get. It's a no-win scenario for most men no matter what they do. There simply will not be a way for most men to get what they want from women. This often builds anger/resentment toward women. And it's not about men expecting something women cannot give to men because women do in fact provide some men with what they want, just for most men they will never be this kind of man.
Depends on how the man proceeds and whether he sees the actual truth and reacts accordingly. I've seen too many videos and comments who took advice, even on self-improvement, and got to their forties with good health and fitness, independence and a job but no partner and warning younger men about the consequences.
These men were never going to get a woman no matter what advice they followed and they just haven't realized that and accepted it yet.
It's like imagine if every 40yo who wasn't a billionaire tried suggesting the only reason they weren't a billionaire is because they didn't make the right decisions. No matter what decisions some people make, they were never going to be a billionaire.
There's a lot to be said about the advice being given by women to men that may be given in good faith but is terrible advice (it would be described as a fisherman asking the fish how to catch them) and the fantasy concepts including the concept of the "soul mate" in dating programmes, fictional stories and general parlance. In the same regard we don't speak frankly about the dark truth of our mortality so we developed the concept of the after life, we do the same thing about mating and dating. The problem is, it fools men and messes them up for life.
I'm not sure if I fully agree with this.
I agree that women give terrible advice and that it is similar to the fish giving advice to the fisherman on how to catch them.
I don't agree that much of the "advice" messes men up for life because it fools them. I think what messes men up is that once men understand how the game works between man and woman what men want is generally impossible to get. It's a no-win scenario for most men no matter what they do. There simply will not be a way for most men to get what they want from women. This often builds anger/resentment toward women. And it's not about men expecting something women cannot give to men because women do in fact provide some men with what they want, just for most men they will never be this kind of man.
Depends on how the man proceeds and whether he sees the actual truth and reacts accordingly. I've seen too many videos and comments who took advice, even on self-improvement, and got to their forties with good health and fitness, independence and a job but no partner and warning younger men about the consequences.
These men were never going to get a woman no matter what advice they followed and they just haven't realized that and accepted it yet.
It's like imagine if every 40yo who wasn't a billionaire tried suggesting the only reason they weren't a billionaire is because they didn't make the right decisions. No matter what decisions some people make, they were never going to be a billionaire.