The "be kind" types don't see involuntary celibates as human beings, rather nothing more than cash machines for OnlyFans thots who wish to befriend them for profit while privately expressing their utter disgust for their clients and therapists who see them as a gold seam for profit while subsequently deeming them beyond help and only useful for exploiting them for profit. In a similar manner as to how self-help gurus in the manosphere exploit loneliness for profit by selling programs that are designed to fail, are expensive (even charged by the minute or the hour via phone calls) and regurgitate to men advice their clients could easily find online for free.

These things are easier to do when not having a partner and succeeding in dating carries a social stigma.