Nothing particularly insightful, but… It doesn’t surprise me in the slightest that this phenom is becoming more common…
Like, I’ve had some really bad stuff happen this week, because I let the wrong person into my life (again), but beyond that… Even just “going out into the world” can be so fucking hostile, it’s really no surprise people retreat like that…
“Social dysfunction” isn’t as obvious where I am as it might be elsewhere. Certainly, you don’t really see it, but have a conversation with the wrong person, or even just sit and observe long enough, and it becomes readily apparent that we’ve become a wider society of petty hostility and just general… Unpleasantness.
Places like NYC, Sydney and arguably Tokyo were always like this, but it’s largely “leaked” far beyond that now. Everyone feels like they’re out to get each other, or at each other’s throats, and that if you don’t play along with the odd beliefs of the person you are talking to? They might just decide to do something really nasty…
A 95-year old with dementia was tasered to death in a nursing home in Sydney a week ago (“She was carrying a knife!”). Just yesterday, a huge fire engulfed a massive historic building in Sydney, and no one put it out, until it was a raging inferno enough to destroy the entire thing (the circumstances of all that are very weird)…
Then there has been escalating brawls and attacks on police in several QLD cities this week.
It all feels… Increasingly hostile. And this is in Australia… “Commie shithole” aside, some of these things are quite unheard of…
So… Filtering this down into “ordinary interactions”, where people have become so hypersensitive and hostile about every disagreement, every little thing… It’s no wonder, honestly, that some young men have decided “Fuck this, why the fuck should I even bother anymore?”
I know I feel that way about “friendship” at this point, so for me, that’s pretty damn understandable…
Just my 10c.
I was talking to a girl, this week - she randomly decides to mention that she is reading Hebrew apocalyptic texts, and that she was a practicing Wiccan at one point…
I respond with something like “Oh, ok, that’s interesting”, and try my best to steer the conversation back to some sort of normality…
She decides that isn’t good enough, explodes at me and cuts off all contact.
It had been going fine before that.
People are fucking weird. Millennial women perhaps especially (no offense to those here who read this)…
Yes, I probably dodged a bullet, but also… Doesn’t feel great, you know?
Wasted time and effort, if nothing else…
I would note, there was zero indication that this would be the case, and zero prompting from my end…
She seemed a bit odd, maybe, and certainly a bit insecure, but this was… Very out of the blue.
Almost like she had already decided she didn’t really like me, and just wanted to throw some weird shit into the conversation to test my response, and have an excuse to cut me out of her life…
But who knows. I just don’t know.
But regardless it has put me off even wanting to converse with women online for a while, lol…
This wasn’t a Tinder date, either. It was someone I had something “in common” with.
But fuck if it didn’t go from “Fine” to “complete fucking disaster” extremely quickly…
sigh
Yeah, I mean in this case, to play Devil’s Advocate for a sec, I wonder if it might well be that I had “fulfilled my usefulness” to her…
Because I had helped her out with something, over the previous weeks (nothing financial, she just needed a confidence boost for job interviews) - that finished up two days ago (i.e. she no longer needed it), and all was swell until the next day, when it got real bad, real quick…
Which is partly why this sucks, because I feel used…
I don’t know if that was it, of course, because she gave no indication, but it may well be…
Timing lines up, at least.
I dunno. She said and did some really weird things yesterday, and I tried to respond as cautiously and kindly as I could, but as you say, URGABLURGA!
But it’s not that which annoys me - it’s the sudden, without warning, ghosting and blocking everywhere…
Because then it’s like, “The fuck did I do? In no way did I deserve that.”
Eugh…
Had this happen to me with a zoomer woman. Only admittedly, I'd probly done a little more to offend her, but it was still a pretty mild thing, and we'd known each other for 4-5 years. She also knew I was going through a tough time, but decided she wouldn't even hear anything else I had to say, cutting me off from even defending myself and blocking me entirely.
Kind of glad she's out of my life, but still infuriated that I wasn't even allowed a moment to defend myself. There's just so many unhinged nutjobs, I swear.
I'll keep reposting this as long as it's true:
Larry David, Jerry Seinfeld & co. made a social commentary about this back in the 90s with Kramer getting bullied by the gays for not wearing the AIDs ribbon during the march.