They always portray these sorts of things as “if only men weren’t like men, we wouldn’t need this” and not the actual truth, that small humans are naturally afraid of big humans. When we are outsized (or outgunned, or just outnumbered) our brain naturally releases stress chemicals to get us ready for a potential conflict. It happens to all of us at some point, even the absolute biggest beast of a man might find himself outnumbered from time to time. Of course, in a civilized society violence is relatively rare, but your monkey brain doesn’t quite glean that, though your logical brain can calm your monkey brain down with a bit of effort. Your monkey brain doesn’t catch on to the fact that you sometimes will pass bigger groups in the mall and that doesn’t actually mean you’re gonna have to fight it out.
The thing about this is, women on average go through life being “the small humans” so they tend to have higher levels of stress in this regard, to the point that their mind invents things to fear just out of habit - the standard take about women won’t go out alone at night, etc. Upshot is, crime against women could drop to near-zero levels and women would still be afraid of us, would still convince themselves WE are making THEM “unsafe” and demand various concessions. See also the recent talk about strategies men can use when out at night to make women “FEEL safer” (while not actually BEING safer from anyone who might actually want to attack them). That’s what all this is, ultimately: all about women’s feelings, and the suck ones that is going through life as (usually) the small human.
TLDR: Women are afraid of us and always will be, whether or not there’s any real reason to be afraid of us.
Meanwhile, when a woman finds a man who is bigger than her but grows to trust them, it leads to them looking at them as a protector. My fiancé has told me exactly that. About how part of the reason she likes me is that I am a titan compared to her (+50lbs, much stronger, a whole head, neck, and shoulders taller), and she has run to me before when she was worried or felt scared.
Or she is going to go full Gremlin mode and start wailing on the guy with me. Because even as much bigger than I am, she doesn’t think I should be the only one with my ass on the line.
Source: it has already happened.
I have known her for almost 15 years, dude. If she was planning on screwing me over like you think women do, I think she would have made her move by now.
You're totally correct, and its only been exacerbated by the social idea that women should be totally self-sufficient. No man is an island. The best way to protect against big humans is to ally yourself with other big humans. Cultivate positive, mutually-beneficial relationships with men. Start with the ones in your own family. Many women have absolutely no idea how much the men in their lives care about them, and would put themselves in harm's way if something threatened her.
When possible, travel to strange or dangerous areas with one of them. If that's not possible, travel with another woman. Predators look for weak animals on their own; the herd is safer.
Everyone should strive to build some sort of communal bonds with others. I know that we get this prideful idea that we want to solve everything on our own, but you get so much further in life by working with others.
They always portray these sorts of things as “if only men weren’t like men, we wouldn’t need this” and not the actual truth, that small humans are naturally afraid of big humans. When we are outsized (or outgunned, or just outnumbered) our brain naturally releases stress chemicals to get us ready for a potential conflict. It happens to all of us at some point, even the absolute biggest beast of a man might find himself outnumbered from time to time. Of course, in a civilized society violence is relatively rare, but your monkey brain doesn’t quite glean that, though your logical brain can calm your monkey brain down with a bit of effort. Your monkey brain doesn’t catch on to the fact that you sometimes will pass bigger groups in the mall and that doesn’t actually mean you’re gonna have to fight it out.
The thing about this is, women on average go through life being “the small humans” so they tend to have higher levels of stress in this regard, to the point that their mind invents things to fear just out of habit - the standard take about women won’t go out alone at night, etc. Upshot is, crime against women could drop to near-zero levels and women would still be afraid of us, would still convince themselves WE are making THEM “unsafe” and demand various concessions. See also the recent talk about strategies men can use when out at night to make women “FEEL safer” (while not actually BEING safer from anyone who might actually want to attack them). That’s what all this is, ultimately: all about women’s feelings, and the suck ones that is going through life as (usually) the small human.
TLDR: Women are afraid of us and always will be, whether or not there’s any real reason to be afraid of us.
Meanwhile, when a woman finds a man who is bigger than her but grows to trust them, it leads to them looking at them as a protector. My fiancé has told me exactly that. About how part of the reason she likes me is that I am a titan compared to her (+50lbs, much stronger, a whole head, neck, and shoulders taller), and she has run to me before when she was worried or felt scared.
Which of course makes me feel good too as a man.
If you ever lose a fight, she'll fuck the guy who beat you behind your back.
Or she is going to go full Gremlin mode and start wailing on the guy with me. Because even as much bigger than I am, she doesn’t think I should be the only one with my ass on the line.
Source: it has already happened.
I have known her for almost 15 years, dude. If she was planning on screwing me over like you think women do, I think she would have made her move by now.
I'm just telling the truth about women like that.
You're totally correct, and its only been exacerbated by the social idea that women should be totally self-sufficient. No man is an island. The best way to protect against big humans is to ally yourself with other big humans. Cultivate positive, mutually-beneficial relationships with men. Start with the ones in your own family. Many women have absolutely no idea how much the men in their lives care about them, and would put themselves in harm's way if something threatened her.
When possible, travel to strange or dangerous areas with one of them. If that's not possible, travel with another woman. Predators look for weak animals on their own; the herd is safer.
Everyone should strive to build some sort of communal bonds with others. I know that we get this prideful idea that we want to solve everything on our own, but you get so much further in life by working with others.