Obviously we don't want to get into legal territory here, but I'm sure most men have been through this, on at least some "informal" level, at least previously...
The entire saga has taken place via text. I didn't say anything explicit, and was never given any indication that this individual was "uncomfortable". Literally no words were exchanged to that effect. In fact, most discussion was about our mutual studies. I had a slight feeling something was "off", from this girl's behaviour more broadly, but again, no direct indication was given...
Anyway, it has been some time since we had actually spoken, but today I am told that she has reported me to the University. Just informally, but the head of the student counselling department wants to pursue an investigation into me, lololol...
I have a record of the entire exchange. I haven't broken any laws, here, so unless there's some informal rule about "Her word against yours" (which I'm sure there probably is), I think I'm largely ok. Reputational damage is likely the main issue...
Anyway, like I said, in the court of "He said, she said", obviously they will side with her, but if this is a case based purely on "feelings", then who fucking knows how far she will get...
Just a fucking waste of my time. I've got so much other shit going on (my grandmother literally died two days ago, so to say this is low on my priority list..? Is an understatement), that I really just want to minimise impact, and get the fucking thing over with...
Eugh.
Yes, it's my own stupid fault for letting this one in. Yes, it's very High School. But like I said, I can calmly say that I did not actually do anything objectively wrong, here.
It is what it is, and I'm stuck with it. Like most college-age straight males who've had even the barest bit of experience, lol.
Yeah, it does feel that way...
Seems she wants to "escalate", so that will be "fun"...
I'm more concerned, frankly, that the University took something which has occurred between two students, off campus, in our own time, and somehow attached that to my position as a student...
It's clearly unenforceable legally (because I haven't broken any laws), but they've gone to the effort to reverse match my phone number and email, and bombard me via both...
Seems kind of... Somewhat inappropriate, to me. Especially as the emails started as vague, anonymous threats that someone had "reported me" to the University...
The process is the punishment. Clearly this are not suppose to be legal, the same as an HR complaint, it can be enforced as a broke of conduct that assumingly you've signed when you enrolled. The fact that they can "police" you outside the University it just show how authoritarian the leftist institutions have gotten. At this point they only want to demoralize you so don't let them, take it as a win against the bitch and the institution protecting her. Next time you see her feel free to make fun of her impotent attempts.
Yeah, it’s a bit fucked, frankly…
Like, she must know that legally she has no ground to stand on. Yet here we are…
Ha, yeah, I’ve just told them “Look, I’ll give you my end of things, but do not waste my time”, so we’ll see how willing they are to try and fuck with me, lol…
I know I’m not the first to be in this position, but it’s just so… Fucking juvenile, frankly, lol.
High School drama, and yet this bitch is older than me. Eugh…
Women don't grow up