I understand this is an easily "crabs in a bucket" mentality where you drag down yours peers.
A crab placed alone in a bucket will easily climb out and escape, but when you place it with a few of its mates, this interesting phenomenon occurs: One at a time, as the crabs try to escape, other crabs will pull them back down to their misery and the group’s collective demise.
You: "men without children"
Also You: "men being able to spend some amount of time with their own children."
Do you see what I'm getting at here?
I understand this is an easily "crabs in a bucket" mentality where you drag down yours peers.