Trying to "get" women as a goal in itself is a bad plan. In simple terms, women don't like desperate men, and they can tell from men's behaviour how desperate they are. Setting a goal to "get" a woman increases your desperation, especially if you set a numeric goal to attain, and thus is counter productive. A better tactic is to improve yourself in other ways, take opportunity to flirt when they arise but be indifferent to actually "getting" women.
Although feigning disinterest/aloofness just does not work, either…
As TheImp points out, feigning doesn't work because they can still tell you are just faking it. I meant actually being disinterested, rather than trying to fake it.
And easy of achieving this level of "disinterest" is embracing aspects of MGTOW i.e. being realistic about relationships and realising in most cases a relationship is going to make many aspects of your life worse rather than better, so it's not really that important. If someone comes along that brings enough positives to outweigh the negatives, than fair enough, give it a go, but otherwise "romantic" relationships are generally not worth it.
Trying to "get" women as a goal in itself is a bad plan. In simple terms, women don't like desperate men, and they can tell from men's behaviour how desperate they are. Setting a goal to "get" a woman increases your desperation, especially if you set a numeric goal to attain, and thus is counter productive. A better tactic is to improve yourself in other ways, take opportunity to flirt when they arise but be indifferent to actually "getting" women.
I agree, within reason. Although feigning disinterest/aloofness just does not work, either…
At least in my experience.
There must be a “happy medium”, but I am entirely yet to find it, myself, unfortunately…
As TheImp points out, feigning doesn't work because they can still tell you are just faking it. I meant actually being disinterested, rather than trying to fake it.
And easy of achieving this level of "disinterest" is embracing aspects of MGTOW i.e. being realistic about relationships and realising in most cases a relationship is going to make many aspects of your life worse rather than better, so it's not really that important. If someone comes along that brings enough positives to outweigh the negatives, than fair enough, give it a go, but otherwise "romantic" relationships are generally not worth it.