Woman: "Oh darling, I want to follow my heart and dreams and care for the sick." Man: "So I am going to have to earn more money while you gain satisfaction from your job? Because the mortgage doesn't fucking are how satisfied I am at work."
So here is the question: Are you going to subsidize her doing what she wants while you bust your hump? To follow up, are you going to thank her for her sacrifice, and then do even more chores?
Okay those are good points. A domestic partnership should recognize the impact that one person's choices have on the other. Taking a fulfilling job over a well paying job sounds great in theory but if that means a partner has to pick up the slack then they need to discuss it and come to an agreement. Of course, feminism tells women that they should do whatever they want and any second not spent fulfilling every whim they have is tragic oppression, so anyone advocating for rationality is facing an uphill battle.
But in OP's scenario, he wasn't busting his hump and she was. She was the one who was stressed and overworked. My whole point was that 'I'm smart and you're not, so you can suffer while I put my feet up' doesn't make for a healthy partnership. But if they want to have a conversation about her chosen career demanding too much and paying too little, and how that affects the rest of the family, that's fair.
OP should dump her goldbricking ass and keep his extra take home pay. In his scenario his wife doesn't earn a comparative wage, nor does he get any benefits from her partnership. She doesn't cook or clean. I bet a shiny dollar the kids would be in full time care.
Why on earth would he subsidize her feel-good feelings and need for social status? WTF is she bringing to the relationship?
If all she can offer is her pussy ... well, what does that say about her? Get a rental and stop over-paying.
Okay those are good points. A domestic partnership should recognize the impact that one person's choices have on the other. Taking a fulfilling job over a well paying job sounds great in theory but if that means a partner has to pick up the slack then they need to discuss it and come to an agreement. Of course, feminism tells women that they should do whatever they want and any second not spent fulfilling every whim they have is tragic oppression, so anyone advocating for rationality is facing an uphill battle.
But in OP's scenario, he wasn't busting his hump and she was. She was the one who was stressed and overworked. My whole point was that 'I'm smart and you're not, so you can suffer while I put my feet up' doesn't make for a healthy partnership. But if they want to have a conversation about her chosen career demanding too much and paying too little, and how that affects the rest of the family, that's fair.
OP should dump her goldbricking ass and keep his extra take home pay. In his scenario his wife doesn't earn a comparative wage, nor does he get any benefits from her partnership. She doesn't cook or clean. I bet a shiny dollar the kids would be in full time care.
Why on earth would he subsidize her feel-good feelings and need for social status? WTF is she bringing to the relationship?
If all she can offer is her pussy ... well, what does that say about her? Get a rental and stop over-paying.