Especially as the media loved to perpetuate the "hard to get" angle as something men enjoy, when that's only true with a lot of factors in its favor.
It's literally never true.
Every single woman would have a better success rate with "I think you're interesting, want to grab coffee sometime and see if we click?" than with "fuck off". Every. Single. One.
If there's varying success rates, it is because the source data isn't the same. An extremely attractive women will get more advances and passes made at her, making her more selective and standoffish, but she's still attractive. An open but ugly woman will get less passes made at her. The ugly one looks at the attractive one, and says "clearly, it isn't the physical appearance. It must be that she's acting like she's tired of getting all the attention, that gets her all the attention. It can't be that she's legit tired of it due to her attractiveness, because that implies I'm not attractive."
It can be, but it needs to be given considerable thoughtl. As in, she is creating artificial scarcity by not giving it for free in a controlled economy (as in one guy she is putting energy in, not literally every single one). Part of that requires still giving something to keep interest focused, which is the part they always fail.
Because its not about just getting sex, even they are smart enough to know that "you me, ooking" is more effective. Its about creating a larger value on having sex with them to create greater attachment. Sunken cost is another factor of that.
Its all basic marketing stuff, they just literally aren't smart enough to understand how to apply it.
It's literally never true.
Every single woman would have a better success rate with "I think you're interesting, want to grab coffee sometime and see if we click?" than with "fuck off". Every. Single. One.
If there's varying success rates, it is because the source data isn't the same. An extremely attractive women will get more advances and passes made at her, making her more selective and standoffish, but she's still attractive. An open but ugly woman will get less passes made at her. The ugly one looks at the attractive one, and says "clearly, it isn't the physical appearance. It must be that she's acting like she's tired of getting all the attention, that gets her all the attention. It can't be that she's legit tired of it due to her attractiveness, because that implies I'm not attractive."
It can be, but it needs to be given considerable thoughtl. As in, she is creating artificial scarcity by not giving it for free in a controlled economy (as in one guy she is putting energy in, not literally every single one). Part of that requires still giving something to keep interest focused, which is the part they always fail.
Because its not about just getting sex, even they are smart enough to know that "you me, ooking" is more effective. Its about creating a larger value on having sex with them to create greater attachment. Sunken cost is another factor of that.
Its all basic marketing stuff, they just literally aren't smart enough to understand how to apply it.