On the last sentence… It may be, but I think it’s more learned than innate…
I find it far too easy to act completely differently to them for it to come down to pure genetics - I think it’s more that the abuse and negativity is passed down, each generation learns it, and never grows out of it.
But given that several of my cousins are like this, you’re probably right. Genetics must play a part…
I dunno. It took me a long time to overcome it, and it still amazes me how much people hate me for how I acted like a decade ago, but I think I’m getting there.
Agreed that the universe doesn’t care. I’ve had terrible “luck” my whole life. But I’ve just had to accept that, say “fuck it”, and work with what I’ve got. Because otherwise… Clearly I would not be here, now.
I could very easily also hate women for the way they have almost always treated me, online and off, but it’s just not worth my energy, frankly. The ones that did what they did don’t deserve another second of my time.
But it took me years and years to learn that, so maybe it’s just… Something you grow into.
Or don’t, as was the point, here.
I try not to judge arbitrary groups of people by their immutable characteristics. I used to. Not anymore.
Except leftists. Fuck leftists. And like, “drag queen story time” exponents. They can definitely rot.
I find it far too easy to act completely differently to them for it to come down to pure genetics
Genetics aren't all or nothing. They're just predispositions. For example, some people are more easily addicted than others. Obviously, you're not going to be addicted if you're not around addictive substances though.
it still amazes me how much people hate me for how I acted like a decade ago, but I think I’m getting there.
I have the opposite problem. I've always acted the exact way I wanted, annoying people, and it amazes me that people never hated me for it.
Agreed that the universe doesn’t care. I’ve had terrible “luck” my whole life.
I know it's not solace at all, but in the grand scheme of things, anyone growing up in the first world has at least extraordinary luck when it comes to material comforts. How little this matters in the end is reflected in the rates of psychological issues in the West vs. others places.
I try not to judge arbitrary groups of people by their immutable characteristics. I used to. Not anymore.
Except leftists. Fuck leftists. And like, “drag queen story time” exponents. They can definitely rot.
Fortunately, that is not immutable. At least by Murican standards, I considered myself on the left before they went completely insane around 2014.
On the last sentence… It may be, but I think it’s more learned than innate…
I find it far too easy to act completely differently to them for it to come down to pure genetics - I think it’s more that the abuse and negativity is passed down, each generation learns it, and never grows out of it.
But given that several of my cousins are like this, you’re probably right. Genetics must play a part…
I dunno. It took me a long time to overcome it, and it still amazes me how much people hate me for how I acted like a decade ago, but I think I’m getting there.
Agreed that the universe doesn’t care. I’ve had terrible “luck” my whole life. But I’ve just had to accept that, say “fuck it”, and work with what I’ve got. Because otherwise… Clearly I would not be here, now.
I could very easily also hate women for the way they have almost always treated me, online and off, but it’s just not worth my energy, frankly. The ones that did what they did don’t deserve another second of my time.
But it took me years and years to learn that, so maybe it’s just… Something you grow into.
Or don’t, as was the point, here.
I try not to judge arbitrary groups of people by their immutable characteristics. I used to. Not anymore.
Except leftists. Fuck leftists. And like, “drag queen story time” exponents. They can definitely rot.
Genetics aren't all or nothing. They're just predispositions. For example, some people are more easily addicted than others. Obviously, you're not going to be addicted if you're not around addictive substances though.
I have the opposite problem. I've always acted the exact way I wanted, annoying people, and it amazes me that people never hated me for it.
I know it's not solace at all, but in the grand scheme of things, anyone growing up in the first world has at least extraordinary luck when it comes to material comforts. How little this matters in the end is reflected in the rates of psychological issues in the West vs. others places.
Fortunately, that is not immutable. At least by Murican standards, I considered myself on the left before they went completely insane around 2014.