Minor point: it was 2008 not 2012.

But yes, it frustrates me to hear people say "the right just needs to accept the gay marriage thing". The right did the "boots on the ground" thing in 2008 to keep it illegal through the same sort of "democratic" means the left uses to push through their social agenda, then the courts came by and told them "sorry, wrong answer".

Why should the right accept that is the end all/be all for debate on the subject? If the right listened to these sorts of people about abortion, Roe v. Wade would still be precedent.