I suppose they are distinguishable, in the sense that possessing child porn and distributing child porn shouldn't be treated exactly the same, nor the same as raping a child. But morally... you're still going to have a seat with Chris Hansen.

Also it would depend on the 14 year old and how old the man is. I have seen some very mature 14 year olds but it's rare. Still, can't you wait a few fucking years?